Happy New Year and Congratulations for surviving Christmas and New Year.
Did you have a great time or was it a struggle?
Are you looking forward to the year ahead or are you dreading another year of feeling sad, unhappy… (insert word as appropriate)?
Do you wish that these feelings would STOP so that you could stop just surviving and start living.
So what ARE you going to do differently?
Take it from me, you can keep on wishing and hoping that things will change, but wishing and hoping will only take you so far, in order to really change YOU need to do something different. I spent many years waiting for something to happen and it was only when I took the decision to learn NLP that I finally healed, found my purpose and started to build the life I wanted.
Still not sure?
I recently read a blog called ‘No One is Coming’ which was tough reading. The message is;
‘No one is coming to save you.
You have to take responsibility for your own life and what happens in it…..
Whatever has to be done, it’s you who have to take responsibility and do it.’
You can read as many books and blogs as you like, and they will help, but in the end the buck stops with you and to get the life you want you have to take control.
I told you it was tough and I believe it to be true. So no prizes for guessing that my next question is;
How ARE you going to take responsibility for improving your life?
If you’re not sure what, here is an exercise to help you focus. Find somewhere quiet and calm, consider the past year and ask yourself;
1. What did you do well last year, what made you happy?
2. What felt too hard to do, what do you need to let go of, where do you need help?
3. What do you wish that you had done last year? How did you stop yourself from doing it?
I recently went through these questions and the answers were really illuminating, giving me some real pointers as to what I could do next.
Now let’s look forward.
Taking account of your answers, what do you want to do differently this year?
What do you want to look back on and say, ‘yes I’m proud that I did that’?
To focus your thoughts, consider:
a) How can you do more of the things that you do well and make you happy?
b) Considering your answers above, how would your life change if you did the hard things and let go of others?
c) How will you feel when you do those things you want to do?
Imagine you did all of these things,
a year has passed, you feel positive and you’re looking back knowing that you made great progress.
Take a moment to savour everything, notice what you can see, hear and feel.
Be aware of the action you took during the year to get to this more positive place.
Come back to the present with the knowledge of how to make this year better than last.
Now you know how much better your life can be, what are you going to do to make it happen?
Still not sure? Think about this quote by Hillel the Elder ‘If not now, when?’
You can spend your whole life waiting for ‘when,’ you can wait for the ‘right’ time, until you feel better, until you have more time, until you feel more positive, but there will never be the perfect time to take action.
If you want to bring some colour into your life this is it. The time is now.
If you want every Christmas to be different from now on, if you want your life to be different from now on you need to do something different.
If you want to put the sadness and grief of childlessness behind you, you need to take control and do something different.
So once again ask yourself,
What are you going to do to make this year better than last year?
What do you think? Is your time now?
Please leave your ideas below as to what action you’re going to take to make this year better than last.
If you find this daunting or you’re not sure what action to take, I’d love to help you. You can book a complimentary session via my online diary or leave a message on my contact page and we can spend 20 to 30 minutes to get clarity on how we can work together to create a life you love.
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Thank you to Karen Knott at Prime Time Business for the inspiration on the questions.
You can read No One is Coming here.