What does nurturing mean to you?

By Lesley | May 1, 2020 | 0 Comments

As we near the end of week 5 (or is it week 105?) of this alternative life we’re leading, the topic of nurturing has been coming up more & more often. So the webinar I recently participated in was the perfect time to discuss & share views on how we nurture when we don’t have children. My starting point is that we should (or maybe must..) start by nurturing ourselves. As the saying goes ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ so it’s only once you nurture, love & accept yourself that you can give to others. You can watch our conversation below & I wanted to take this opportunity expand on a couple of ideas I talked about & which are really supporting me at the moment. These are ‘small pleasures’ & creativity & they’re both a really great way in to nurturing. The following are edited extracts from my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness. Small pleasures There are small things that support you in many ways, including self-care & nourishment. On the wall behind my desk I have a list of what I call small pleasures: things I can do that bring me joy & demonstrate self-care.  Most of them are free, such as pausing to look up at the sky, meditating, reading for 30 minutes, looking at photos, singing along to a favourite song, listening to music or a podcast, or taking a walk. Others cost a small amount, such as one square of chocolate, coffee in … Read more What does nurturing mean to you?

I’m sorry but you’re grieving

By Lesley / April 7, 2020 / 8

I don’t know about you, but these past few weeks have been really hard. Although both of us have been working from home for several years, this FEELS completely different. … Read more I’m sorry but you’re grieving

Are you living the life unexpected?

By Lesley / March 11, 2020 / 2

If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: … Read more Are you living the life unexpected?

Are you ready to plant some seeds?

By Lesley / February 24, 2020 / 5

I’m hoping that, over the past few weeks you’ve got closer to knowing the answers to the questions; ‘what does my heart want/what’s my heart’s deepest desire?’ Perhaps by now … Read more Are you ready to plant some seeds?

What does my heart want?

By Lesley / January 21, 2020 / 2

Welcome back, how are you progressing? (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of a review as we want to be sure that our dreams are supporting us – … Read more What does my heart want?

Who am I & what have I learned?

By Lesley / January 14, 2020 / 0

How do you feel having answered last week’s questions? If you haven’t finished yet that’s Ok, this is not a race. (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of … Read more Who am I & what have I learned?

Are you ready?

By Lesley / January 7, 2020 / 0

Are you ready to move forward with dreams which support you? If you’re new here you might find it helpful to read my last blog.  In it I shared Cheryl … Read more Are you ready?

Don’t let your dreams ruin your life

By Lesley / January 1, 2020 / 0

You know sometimes you hear words which feel like a punch in the heart? When I heard Cheryl Strayed (author of the fabulous book ‘Wild: A journey from Lost to … Read more Don’t let your dreams ruin your life

Childless at Christmas: this is all you need

By Lesley / November 19, 2019 / 2

It’s that time of year again, you’re going to be childless at Christmas & the feeling of dread is building. If you’re like I used to be, you’ll want to … Read more Childless at Christmas: this is all you need

Two things I learned from a near miss

By Lesley / October 29, 2019 / 4

A few days ago I came the closest I’ve ever come to having a big car accident. I was on a small roundabout turning right (so I had the right … Read more Two things I learned from a near miss

Living with Amazing Grace

By Lesley / October 7, 2019 / 0

‘Today the statistics for early miscarriage are shocking; one in four pregnancies end in loss. And for many there never is an answer or a reason why they lost their … Read more Living with Amazing Grace

The surprising benefits of acceptance

By Lesley / September 18, 2019 / 6

In my last blog I asked you to let go of your dream of motherhood and today I’d like to dig deeper into another huge subject which comes with letting … Read more The surprising benefits of acceptance

What could happen if you let go?

By Lesley / September 17, 2019 / 0

You’ve probably noticed that the leaves are starting to turn colour and days are getting shorter. This can only mean one thing; Autumn is here. Or if you’re reading this … Read more What could happen if you let go?

The 2 Ps of grieving

By Lesley / August 27, 2019 / 8

This month I have an article published in Yoga Magazine called ‘How Yin (yoga) helped me grieve’ (you can read it here). It’s the most open, honest & vulnerable pieces … Read more The 2 Ps of grieving

How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve

By Lesley / August 19, 2019 / 0

Below is the transcript of an article which was published in the August 2019 edition of Yoga Magazine. It’s called ‘How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve.’ I wrote it from … Read more How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve

Who’s telling your story?

By Lesley / July 23, 2019 / 0

In my last blog, I published Rose’s story; she’d been a client several years ago & suddenly felt ready to share it publicly. However she wasn’t prepared for how it … Read more Who’s telling your story?

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