What’s love got to do with it?

By Lesley | February 18, 2019 | 4 Comments

I’m going to dive right in and start with a question. Do you feel and express love for others? Ok, I’ll hazard a guess that your answer was an unequivocal yes. Why wouldn’t it be? So now we‘ve established this, I’d like to dig a bit deeper and ask another question. Do you feel and express love for yourself? Hmm I thought so, this is a lot harder isn’t it? If it helps, until recently self-love was a real challenge for me, I believed I wasn’t ‘deserving’ of my own love and kindness so I didn’t take care of myself and always put others first. When writing Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness all those words beginning with self, such as acceptance, kindness and love were a theme amongst story tellers which ‘encouraged’ (read forced) me to dig into what they meant, and to apply them to myself. And to be honest I did so reluctantly as none of it seemed British, and certainly not something I was brought up to think about. What is love anyway? I started by asking myself what does it mean to love? If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while, you’ll know that I love Brené Brown’s work and one reason is because everything she writes is born out of research. She defines love in The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, as  ‘A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible … Read moreWhat’s love got to do with it?

The challenges of following my own advice

By Lesley / January 29, 2019 / 2

It’s been almost a month since my last blog when I encouraged you not to start new things and set resolutions but, instead to follow nature, be still and direct … Read moreThe challenges of following my own advice

One question to ask yourself in January

By Lesley / January 2, 2019 / 8

If you’re excited by all those enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you it’s time to make this change, set new resolutions, stop reading now. This is definitely not … Read moreOne question to ask yourself in January

Christmas survival guide

By Lesley / November 30, 2018 / 8

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not … Read moreChristmas survival guide

How to bring joy into your life

By Lesley / November 20, 2018 / 0

The days are growing shorter and THAT time of year is almost upon us. Maybe you feel a sense of heaviness or dread and you’re thinking something like – what … Read moreHow to bring joy into your life

The surprising benefits of acceptance

By Lesley / November 4, 2018 / 6

In my last blog I asked you to let go of your dream of motherhood and today I’d like to dig deeper into another huge subject which comes with letting … Read moreThe surprising benefits of acceptance

What could happen if you let go?

By Lesley / October 16, 2018 / 0

After the long, hot summer we had in the UK, leaves are starting to turn colour and days are getting shorter. This can only mean one thing; Autumn is here. … Read moreWhat could happen if you let go?

Hello, I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless

By Lesley / September 9, 2018 / 4

Hello I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless. I am courage, I am peace, I am joy. I am me. I created this image for World Childless Week. We have a campaign … Read moreHello, I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless

21 Miles, by Jessica Hepburn

By Lesley / August 30, 2018 / 4

Does motherhood make you happy? I’m guessing you believe the answer is yes, especially as you tried so hard to be a mother. Like many of us, Jessica Hepburn wondered … Read more21 Miles, by Jessica Hepburn

Supporting Word Childless Week

By Lesley / August 21, 2018 / 0

This year I’m really excited to be involved in and actively supporting World Childless Week between 10th and 16th September. World Childless Week (WCW) ‘aims to raise awareness of the childless … Read moreSupporting Word Childless Week

150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

By Lesley / August 7, 2018 / 6

As I started to write I realised this is my 150th blog, so what better time to look back and consider what I’ve learned during the almost 5 ½ years … Read more150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

Realising that grief isn’t the enemy

By Lesley / July 27, 2018 / 4

Here’s my story called ‘Realising that grief isn’t the enemy ‘ which was published in the August 2018 edition of Happiful Magazine. “After years of hiding her feelings of sadness … Read moreRealising that grief isn’t the enemy

IVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

By Lesley / July 16, 2018 / 2

On 25th July 2018 IVF is 40; it’s the 40th birthday of Louise Brown, the first IVF baby. Latest figures suggest that at least 6 million babies have been born … Read moreIVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

It’s ALL about the story

By Lesley / June 29, 2018 / 2

Well what an exciting couple of weeks it’s been. As I write this I’ve been a published author for twelve days, well more than that I am an Amazon No1 … Read moreIt’s ALL about the story

If you can dream it you can do it

By Lesley / June 18, 2018 / 2

This is it. Today Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life will be downloaded onto Kindles and appear through letterboxes around the world. Today … Read moreIf you can dream it you can do it

Finding joy in unexpected places

By Lesley / June 8, 2018 / 4

When you first read the title of my book Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life, you might have been surprised to see the … Read moreFinding joy in unexpected places

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