Finding certainty in the most uncertain of times

By Lesley | November 24, 2020 | 6 Comments

THAT time of year is upon us &, in addition to everything we normally have to contend with by being childless at Christmas, this year there’s an added layer of uncertainty. As I post this in the 3rd week of November, the UK Government announced that we’ll be out of lockdown in a week, but we don’t know yet what that will look like. I’ve always been a planner; in previous years I’d have a good idea of our schedule, who we’d be spending time with, when & where. Having plans grounded me, gave something to look forward to & time to prepare myself for potential triggers. I recognise that this is a small issue compared to everything else going on in the world & that doesn’t stop the uncertainty creating some worry. But if I’ve learned one thing from this year it’s the importance of living in the moment. Well maybe 2 things, also that when you make plans too far ahead, the Universe is likely to intervene to scupper them (just like your plan to become a mother maybe?). Having said that, one thing is certain: Being childless at Christmas is hard. Although I wonder, is it possible that you might find it a bit easier than last year? And one positive is that there may be fewer trigger events such as office parties or big family get-togethers. Given the uncertainty of life I’d like to: Show you how to create your own pockets of certainty to keep … Read more

Why it’s time to change the story

By Lesley / October 13, 2020 / 0

We’re definitely in Autumn & I wanted to write a blog asking you to reflect on what you’ve learned these past few months, what story it’s time to let go … Read more

Following the curiosity driven path to joy

By Lesley / September 21, 2020 / 0

I wrote this post for World Childless Week & it was published under the topic of  ‘Moving Forwards.’ You can read it & many other posts published for that day … Read more

How can the healing arts support your healing?

By Lesley / September 8, 2020 / 0

If you’ve been following my blogs or my social media accounts you’ll know that I’m a big fan of using creativity to support our healing.. It wasn’t always so, I … Read more

Now it’s easy to find what will help you most

By Lesley / August 4, 2020 / 0

I started my website in 2013 & this is blog no 189. 40 of those are Inspirational Stories, but at a guess I’ve written 150 to 200,000 words or, to … Read more

Finding Joy, 2 years on

By Lesley / June 16, 2020 / 8

Two years ago this week I became an (Amazon No1 Bestselling) author when my book Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness was published. If you’ve been following my blogs, you’ll know I … Read more

Tales of the Countess: Conversation with Cali Bird

By Lesley / June 1, 2020 / 5

This week I have something different for you, a video interview with a friend & novelist Cali Bird. I met Cali several years ago & her story is on my … Read more

What does nurturing mean to you?

By Lesley / May 1, 2020 / 0

As we near the end of week 5 (or is it week 105?) of this alternative life we’re leading, the topic of nurturing has been coming up more & more … Read more

I’m sorry but you’re grieving

By Lesley / April 7, 2020 / 8

I don’t know about you, but these past few weeks have been really hard. Although both of us have been working from home for several years, this FEELS completely different. … Read more

Are you living the life unexpected?

By Lesley / March 11, 2020 / 2

If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: … Read more

Are you ready to plant some seeds?

By Lesley / February 24, 2020 / 5

I’m hoping that, over the past few weeks you’ve got closer to knowing the answers to the questions; ‘what does my heart want/what’s my heart’s deepest desire?’ Perhaps by now … Read more

What does my heart want?

By Lesley / January 21, 2020 / 2

Welcome back, how are you progressing? (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of a review as we want to be sure that our dreams are supporting us – … Read more

Who am I & what have I learned?

By Lesley / January 14, 2020 / 0

How do you feel having answered last week’s questions? If you haven’t finished yet that’s Ok, this is not a race. (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of … Read more

Are you ready?

By Lesley / January 7, 2020 / 0

Are you ready to move forward with dreams which support you? If you’re new here you might find it helpful to read my last blog.  In it I shared Cheryl … Read more

Don’t let your dreams ruin your life

By Lesley / January 1, 2020 / 0

You know sometimes you hear words which feel like a punch in the heart? When I heard Cheryl Strayed (author of the fabulous book ‘Wild: A journey from Lost to … Read more

Childless at Christmas: this is all you need

By Lesley / November 19, 2019 / 2

It’s that time of year again, you’re going to be childless at Christmas & the feeling of dread is building. If you’re like I used to be, you’ll want to … Read more

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