When I set up my coaching business about a year ago, I knew in my heart that supporting childless women was what I really wanted to do, but I wasn’t quite ready to do it, both personally and professionally.
As you know, being open and honest about being childless and being willing to share your story is a challenge and it has taken me a while to be ready to meet it, especially in such a public way as this.
Many things and people have helped me along the way, and one of the most important was interviewing over twenty childless women about what life was like for them, the help they’d had and what was missing. This was invaluable in reinforcing some things I already knew, and giving me some fresh insights into their struggles.
We have many things in common
One thing that struck me was that, although there are many different paths to childlessness, the feelings we all have are very similar and here are just three of the key things which were mentioned by many of those who were kind enough to share their stories with me.
Grieving and feeling sad
The most universal negative emotions mentioned were of grief and sadness (one lady described feeling like she was struggling through a long and ongoing bereavement).These feelings may well decrease over time, but never really go away, returning maybe for no apparent reason, or as a result of a specific trigger.
Many also said that they now have a lack of confidence and self-esteem, for example one lady said that the thing which hurt her the most was “what it has done to me as a person”.
It’s been hard to find support
Many said that they found it hard to find the right help and support, especially someone who really understands what they are going through.
That’s enough of the negative, what’s the good news?
A few months ago I found this quote and to me it sums up how many childless women feel about their life, and it’s certainly how I felt a few years ago.
Almost by accident I found the door to a new and fabulous life and I’m using my experience and my professional skills in NLP and time line techniques to support childless women to find the door that’s right for them.
So what you will find on my new website is:
In addition to writing about what it’s like to be childless I’ll also provide tips and strategies to help you heal and to deal with the problems you face.
For those times when you need inspiration, there are things which will make you feel better, such as positive quotes, helpful books and other web resources.
And if you’re ready for more than that, there are various ways you can take action.
My commitment to you
Many childless women feel very alone and I will do my best to ensure you know that’s not the case. I will use the skills I’ve worked hard to gain and my experience to provide support and ways to help you heal and move on to a positive life.
I will write from my perspective which may be different to yours, I may not get it right all the time and my intentions will always be positive.
How you can help yourself and others
It would be really helpful to other childless women if we could have conversations on the blog and add more to the Inspiration pages, so it would be great if you could please add your comments. If there’s any topics you’d like me to cover please let me know.
There are an awful lot of women out there who aren’t receiving this so if you know anyone who would benefit then it would be fantastic if you could please forward the details to them.
And if you haven’t done so already, signing up so to get the How to be Confident e-book by filling in the boxes above is a great first step to getting your life back.
If you’d like to discover how I can help you, book a complimentary session via my online diary and spend twenty to thirty minutes to get clarity on how we can work together. Alternatively fill in the contact form and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.