How to improve your life in 15 minutes.

You know that your life can change for the worse in an instant; you’ve received a call that turned your world upside down, maybe the one that told you you weren’t pregnant, that there was no use trying anymore, or perhaps a family illness. So you know the feeling that one moment you’re okay and then next you’re not (to put it mildly!).

But did you know that you can also change your life for the better, maybe not in an instant, but certainly in as little as fifteen minutes?

Yes you can.

Read on to find out how you can improve your life in fifteen minutes, and, if you’re not sure here’s Kellie’s story and how this process changed her from freezing and wanting to faint to a confident singer.

I use NLP techniques which are proven to re-wire the brain so that means you can change patterns or habits that you’ve been following for years. And the beauty of these techniques is that:

(a) they apply to all areas of your life,

(b) once you’ve learned them you can use them easily yourself and

(c) the change is quick, easy and long-lasting.

One of the simplest and most useful techniques you can learn is to be able to control how you feel at any time.

So imagine feeling confident and in control when you speak in public, feeling calm when you see a baby, and generally being in control of how you feel, how much would that change your life?

Let’s talk about emotional states.

An emotional state is how you feel in any moment, for example happy, sad, calm, confident and, despite what you may think, you create this feeling yourself. For example pause for a moment and think of a time when you felt really happy go back to it and re-live that time, what you saw, heard and felt.

What you experienced then was an example of how YOU can control how you feel, your emotional state.

The process, called Anchoring takes this further and links that process with a physical touch (such as holding your finger and thumb together) so that when you repeat the touch you go into the emotional state.

Why is anchoring useful?

Simply, it puts you in charge of how you feel, at any time so you can be in the right state of mind BEFORE a challenging situation and it can bring you back on course when something unexpected happens.

How to create an anchor

In big picture terms you link a movement to the emotional state you want and then when you repeat the movement, you will automatically go into the state, eg confident, calm. It’s explained in detail in the e-book ‘Had your Baby Buttons Pushed…’ you’ll receive when you sign up to my newsletter to the right and here Kellie describes learning this as the best thing she’s done.

If you’ve read my blogs you’ll know that I love being in Rockchoir. Like many things, you sing better when you feel confident and not being confident holds many of us back, especially from singing solos.

A few weeks ago I showed Kellie how to use Anchoring to help her to be a better singer, here she describes what happened.

1. How did you feel before we worked together and what impact did this have on your life?

I’ve always been a chatty person, but when it came to speaking in public or anything where I was on the spot, I would freeze, wobble, feel faint and not remember a word of what I wanted to say.

Although it didn’t affect me every day, I had many situations that I had to avoid for example in my business, giving thanks at events etc… I particularly struggled when I was singing or even talking to a group of children!!

It had always been something I wanted to overcome as it felt like I was exposing the vulnerable side of me which should not be a bad thing,

2. And how do you feel now?

After just a short session with you, I feel able to get up and be in front of people without feeling as though I might black out. I still have what I feel to be normal nerves and adrenaline, but they are positive.

3. What difference has this made – what can you do now that you couldn’t do before?

I can stand up and sing in front of people. I couldn’t even sing in front of my family before. I haven’t tried presenting or speaking to a group yet, but I don’t dread the thought.

4. And how are YOU different from before?

Being able to get up and sing without the fear and debilitating nerves is changing my life. It may seem small, but it is something I am doing for myself that makes me happy and lifts my mood.

I have been unwell for a while and finding singing and a group of people who don’t judge was the beginning of change. Being able to conquer my nerves and actually get up on a stage was something I thought I’d never do.

I can only describe it as moral boosting. I am happier in myself.

5. Anything else you’d like to add?

Lesley has a calming, confidence inspiring demeanor. I didn’t know what to expect or if it would be for me, but Lesley made it so clear and logical that I felt instantly comfortable and at ease. THANK YOU so so much again. Honestly the best thing I’ve done.

I would add that since writing this a few weeks ago Kellie has sung a few solos and her confidence and voice just keep getting better and better. You can check out RockChoir here.

Over to you.

Have you used Anchoring, and if so how did it help you? Please leave details of your experience below, (your name doesn’t have to be published).

I’d love to hear from you, especially your story, or if you have questions or topics that you’d like me to write about. So if you have any questions at all, please drop me a line.

I’ve spoken to so many women who, after having a chat with me realised that what they’re going through is absolutely normal. So if you’d like to do that please book a complimentary session via my online diary