Remember when you used to play hide and seek and the seeker shouted ‘coming ready or not’?
Well I have news for you; in the next few days or weeks a new Royal Baby is coming whether you’re ready or not.
If you watch the BBC, CNN, or any other TV station in the world; if you read Hello or People, the London Times or the New York Times there will be pictures of smiling Royals and a cute baby. There will be speculation about names, who he or she resembles, and discussion about all the tiny details you don’t want to know and wish you’d had to worry about yourself.
And yes, I know you probably have an avoid baby strategy that works well for you, but trust me unless you’re (literally not metaphorically) going to bury your head in the sand, or move to the wilderness on your own, it’s going to be hard to avoid.
You’re going to have to face at least some pictures or discussions and it may well bring up those negative emotions and grief that you haven’t yet dealt with.
I’d love to wave a Magic Wand or sprinkle Fairy Dust but unfortunately you know that you’re going to have to take action.
In the words of Maya Angelou below;‘you may not control all the events that happen to you, BUT you can decide not to be reduced by them.’
In this instance you may not be able to control whether or not you see media coverage of the Royal Baby, BUT whilst there’s time, let’s get you prepared so that you’re not reduced buy it.
Here are three ways to do that.
I know, it’s obvious, but don’t put yourself through the misery of watching the TV news, listening to the radio and reading newspapers or magazines. Avoid the press, sidestep (or run away from) conversations, take a couple of days break from social media and steer clear of checking the online news.
You’re going to have to be disciplined for this to work, so spend a few moments in the next few days deciding specifically what you’ll avoid and how.
This will get you a long way, and when you do find yourself blindsided, it’s time to deploy strategy number two which is;
2. Be kind to yourself.
This is my go to strategy for just about any stressful event, and that’s because it works and is fundamental to moving forward with your life. This is not the time to beat yourself up; you did everything you could, you gave it all (and a bit more) and this is time to be kind.
I’ve written before about the best way to talk to yourself (hint: like someone you love) and this time I’m writing about giving yourself a hug. A gentle touch and other physical gestures remind you of caring emotions, they release positive chemicals which calm you down and make you feel safe, accepted and loved which mean you’re better able to respond positively.
Do it now. Stand up and with your hands by your sides, imagine all of a sudden turning on the TV and it being Royal baby coverage, see it clearly, hear the announcer talking, really live it and notice that you feel stressed.
Now slow down your breathing; cross your arms, squeeze tight and notice how much calmer you feel.
You might not always be able to stand with your arms folded, so experiment with different techniques. You could hold one arm across your chest, you could gently rub your forearm with your hand, or maybe squeeze your hands tight, whilst remembering to slow down your breathing. The important thing is a physical touch which will release those positive chemicals.
These two may be enough to see you through, and there’s always room to take self-kindness a bit further and employ strategy number three, which is:
3. Treat yourself
This is about filling your not-watching-TV-listening-to-the–radio-reading-magazine time with something that nourishes you.
I’m planning on having a couple of evenings of me time, doing exactly what I want to do. I’ll maybe go for a swim or walk if I need to burn off some stress, then I’ll eat a lovely meal, and perhaps read a novel or watch one of my favourite chick flicks.
It will also be a great time to catch up with my travel magazines and I’ve ordered a couple of DVD box sets so we won’t need to turn on the TV.
What’s your equivalent of this, how can you nourish yourself in this time?
And remember to ensure that you have supplies of wine, chocolate, or whatever comfort food works for you. This is a time for comfort (in moderation) and not for worrying about what you’re eating.
If you start thinking about this now, and put these three simple strategies in place you’ll find it easier to get through the Royal Baby Mania.
Last time there was Royal Baby Mania I’d just launched this website. I thought I was okay and now I know that I am. I’ll be pleased for them and I won’t be avoiding the press as much as I did last time. I used to avoid babies like the plague, but I don’t mind them now, as long as I can give them back after a few moments. This is because I’ve done my grief work, those things that I cover on the Let Go and Move on Programme.
What do you think?
If you have other ideas of how to get through the Royal Baby Mania, please share them below so that other women can benefit.
If this all seems too much, and you don’t want to head to the top of the nearest mountain and stay there for weeks, how about booking a complimentary conversation with me and talking through how I could help you? How much better will you feel when you’ve shared your challenge with someone who’s been where you are and knows how to get out?