Reflecting on a year of Finding Joy

By Lesley | June 18, 2019 | 4 Comments

As I post this, (18th June 2019) it’s exactly a year since my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness was published. I planned to write a positive & inspiring post about how I’ve changed in the last year but the Universe had other plans. Or to be more specific grief intervened & sucked most of the life & enthusiasm out of me leaving me struggling to write, especially to write anything joyful. This Friday, exactly a year after my book launch party, I’ll be at a ‘celebration of life’ for a friend’s husband & at the same time Roger will be 150 miles away at the funeral of another friend. So not exactly the week I was hoping for. To research the anticipated blog I spent time reading through the journals I’ve written over the last couple of years. It was really interesting & I’ll be writing about my discoveries in due course. One thing which stood out in my writing is how much I’m aware of how differently I feel each day. Accepting all of life as it happens Perhaps what’s changed most over the last year is that I now accept every bit of life as it happens. All of it. I’ve learned to accept how I feel in each moment, to allow each emotion in with an open heart, knowing it will leave when it’s worked its’ own special magic. That was a huge realisation but it felt like there was something missing. I took time out to … Read moreReflecting on a year of Finding Joy

Finding joy from grief

By Lesley / November 7, 2017 / 3

When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her … Read moreFinding joy from grief

Feeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

By Lesley / October 25, 2017 / 0

I think one of the hardest things about being childless in a pronatalist society is feeling misunderstood and at times, feeling less than.  I’m not sure I realized it at … Read moreFeeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

Feeling my way through grief

By Lesley / October 9, 2017 / 10

You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening. It’s like a volcano in … Read moreFeeling my way through grief

The power of finding support

By Lesley / September 17, 2017 / 0

This post is my contribution to WorldChildlessWeek, here are my thoughts on finding support. Let me guess, you’re struggling to come to terms with not being a mother.  You’ve found … Read moreThe power of finding support

What’s made you who you are today?

By Lesley / September 5, 2017 / 0

Here’s a question for you. What events in your life have made you who you are today? And whilst you’re thinking, here’s some help; Take blank sheet of paper; draw … Read moreWhat’s made you who you are today?

From sprained ankle to heart in three steps

By Lesley / August 21, 2017 / 6

I hear and feel the crack in my ankle as I crash to the ground. ‘Are you Okay?’ Roger asks. ‘NO’ I get up slowly up and hobble gingerly to … Read moreFrom sprained ankle to heart in three steps

Reflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty

By Lesley / July 23, 2017 / 10

My first brush with the pain of loss I’ll never forget my first real brush with the pain of loss.  It was after our fourth IUI failed when my tectonic … Read moreReflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty

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Finding gifts in the impossible story.

By Lesley / June 26, 2017 / 6

As you know I’m in the middle of writing a book about stories and my new e-book (called Change the Story, Change Your Life) is all about how the stories … Read moreFinding gifts in the impossible story.

Three ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

By Lesley / May 30, 2017 / 9

I’m going to dive straight in with some bad news: You’re grieving.   I’m sorry, but you are. I’m guessing that you’ve got that sinking feeling and a ‘no.. ‘ … Read moreThree ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

Thank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

By Lesley / April 18, 2017 / 8

It’s not every day that your life experience is the same as a member of the Royal Family, but I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I listened to … Read moreThank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

Writing my own ending

By Lesley / April 4, 2017 / 5

I’m standing at the front of the room about to tell fifty people some things about me that no one knows. The silence feels heavy. Fifty faces are focused on … Read moreWriting my own ending

Own your story and write your ending

By Lesley / March 21, 2017 / 2

Life is lived through story and the story you tell yourself is the biggest of all because it determines the life you have. If you tell yourself that your life … Read moreOwn your story and write your ending

Why I’m taking a deep breath…

By Lesley / February 14, 2017 / 7

‘When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that … Read moreWhy I’m taking a deep breath…

Release & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

By Lesley / January 16, 2017 / 1

Guest post by 40AndEverythingAfter I finally gave up on having a family 8 years ago. We had been trying for a baby for 5 years and, after 3 failed IVF … Read moreRelease & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

Taking time out to be grateful for what we have

By Lesley / December 1, 2016 / 2

It feels to me that the world is very strange at the moment. There’s so much anxiety, stress and anger on both sides of the Atlantic; friends and families are … Read moreTaking time out to be grateful for what we have

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