Living with Amazing Grace

By Lesley | October 7, 2019 | 0 Comments

‘Today the statistics for early miscarriage are shocking; one in four pregnancies end in loss. And for many there never is an answer or a reason why they lost their baby. In addition to the physical loss there is devastation and trauma left behind physically, emotionally and psychologically. Our society is reasonably open and liberal and yet those who suffer a miscarriage often do so in silence and it continues to remain taboo. Considering miscarriage is so common it is distressing to find it is not a subject that is discussed openly and that there is little support available for parents going through this traumatic experience.’ Unfortunately there’s a strong chance that the sentiment behind those words will be familiar to you. They’re quoted directly from the introduction to a new book ‘Living with Amazing Grace; a journey through grief, healing and transformation’ by my good friend Melanie Mackie. To paraphrase Melanie’s story – approaching 40 & beginning to accept that she might not have children, she became pregnant & then lost the baby (Grace) in an extremely devastating miscarriage. In the book she writes openly about her experience & more importantly about how she got though the grief & achieved her ‘graceful awakening’. To be open with you, I’ve known Melanie for a few years & she’s always been there for me, & if you’ve read my book, Finding Joy you’ll be familiar with her as she shared sharing her expertise of writing. Having said that, I’ve read ‘Living … Read moreLiving with Amazing Grace

Being infertile feels like crap.

By Lesley / February 27, 2018 / 3

Being infertile feels like crap. I  wish I could say it more eloquently, but I really can’t. I felt like a total loser. Now I would never feel that way about … Read moreBeing infertile feels like crap.

Courage or comfort, what’s your choice?

By Lesley / February 1, 2018 / 10

I don’t know about you, but my year has already been a bit of a rollercoaster. In my last blog I wrote how I planned to slow down in January, … Read moreCourage or comfort, what’s your choice?

Why not to start new things in January and what do to instead

By Lesley / January 9, 2018 / 4

If you’re excited by all the enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you that, now it’s January you MUST set goals or intentions; give up this or start that, … Read moreWhy not to start new things in January and what do to instead

Christmas Survival Guide

By Lesley / November 30, 2017 / 6

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not … Read moreChristmas Survival Guide

Finding joy from grief

By Lesley / November 7, 2017 / 3

When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her … Read moreFinding joy from grief

Feeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

By Lesley / October 25, 2017 / 0

I think one of the hardest things about being childless in a pronatalist society is feeling misunderstood and at times, feeling less than.  I’m not sure I realized it at … Read moreFeeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

Feeling my way through grief

By Lesley / October 9, 2017 / 10

You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening. It’s like a volcano in … Read moreFeeling my way through grief

The power of finding support

By Lesley / September 17, 2017 / 0

This post is my contribution to WorldChildlessWeek, here are my thoughts on finding support. Let me guess, you’re struggling to come to terms with not being a mother.  You’ve found … Read moreThe power of finding support

What’s made you who you are today?

By Lesley / September 5, 2017 / 0

Here’s a question for you. What events in your life have made you who you are today? And whilst you’re thinking, here’s some help; Take blank sheet of paper; draw … Read moreWhat’s made you who you are today?

From sprained ankle to heart in three steps

By Lesley / August 21, 2017 / 6

I hear and feel the crack in my ankle as I crash to the ground. ‘Are you Okay?’ Roger asks. ‘NO’ I get up slowly up and hobble gingerly to … Read moreFrom sprained ankle to heart in three steps

Reflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty

By Lesley / July 23, 2017 / 10

My first brush with the pain of loss I’ll never forget my first real brush with the pain of loss.  It was after our fourth IUI failed when my tectonic … Read moreReflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty


Finding gifts in the impossible story.

By Lesley / June 26, 2017 / 6

As you know I’m in the middle of writing a book about stories & there’s a chapter about how the stories we tell ourselves can keep us stuck or set … Read moreFinding gifts in the impossible story.

Three ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

By Lesley / May 30, 2017 / 9

I’m going to dive straight in with some bad news: You’re grieving.   I’m sorry, but you are. I’m guessing that you’ve got that sinking feeling and a ‘no.. ‘ … Read moreThree ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

Thank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

By Lesley / April 18, 2017 / 8

It’s not every day that your life experience is the same as a member of the Royal Family, but I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I listened to … Read moreThank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

Writing my own ending

By Lesley / April 4, 2017 / 5

I’m standing at the front of the room about to tell fifty people some things about me that no one knows. The silence feels heavy. Fifty faces are focused on … Read moreWriting my own ending


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