What’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

By Lesley | April 1, 2019 | 9 Comments

‘I feel incredibly sad, a sadness deep inside. It’s almost overwhelming, a heaviness inside my chest that I carry all the time, if only I could cry.’ ‘I’m sad and that’s my normal sad.’  Do you recognise these words? Maybe you’ve written or voiced something similar? They’re from my journal, written in late Feb/early March 2016 a few days before I attended a Rising Strong workshop in Vegas. At that time I was doing absolutely everything I could to keep all the grief I was carrying in the box I’d created because I believed it was the right thing to do. Let’s just say, it wasn’t working. That workshop was the beginning of my healing journey and where I started to release some of the sadness I was holding. It was the first time I cried in public and when I realised how much we feel emotions in the body. As I wrote at the time; ‘emotions, we feel them in our body, they have a signature.’  (Who knew??) Looking back I hardly recognise the Lesley who wrote those words. That Lesley was afraid of feeling her grief because she ‘knew’ bottling everything up was the best thing to do. She was largely numb; sadness was her norm and there was very little joy in her life. And now on 8TH March 2019 at 6.22 am, exactly 3 years later I wrote these words during a yoga retreat in India: ‘Never in a million years did I ever expect that … Read moreWhat’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

From sprained ankle to heart in three steps

By Lesley / August 21, 2017 / 6

I hear and feel the crack in my ankle as I crash to the ground. ‘Are you Okay?’ Roger asks. ‘NO’ I get up slowly up and hobble gingerly to … Read moreFrom sprained ankle to heart in three steps

Reflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty

By Lesley / July 23, 2017 / 10

My first brush with the pain of loss I’ll never forget my first real brush with the pain of loss.  It was after our fourth IUI failed when my tectonic … Read moreReflections on Grief and Feeling by Sarah Chamberlin @Infertility Honesty

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Finding gifts in the impossible story.

By Lesley / June 26, 2017 / 6

As you know I’m in the middle of writing a book about stories and my new e-book (called Change the Story, Change Your Life) is all about how the stories … Read moreFinding gifts in the impossible story.

Three ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

By Lesley / May 30, 2017 / 9

I’m going to dive straight in with some bad news: You’re grieving.   I’m sorry, but you are. I’m guessing that you’ve got that sinking feeling and a ‘no.. ‘ … Read moreThree ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

Thank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

By Lesley / April 18, 2017 / 8

It’s not every day that your life experience is the same as a member of the Royal Family, but I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I listened to … Read moreThank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

Writing my own ending

By Lesley / April 4, 2017 / 5

I’m standing at the front of the room about to tell fifty people some things about me that no one knows. The silence feels heavy. Fifty faces are focused on … Read moreWriting my own ending

Own your story and write your ending

By Lesley / March 21, 2017 / 2

Life is lived through story and the story you tell yourself is the biggest of all because it determines the life you have. If you tell yourself that your life … Read moreOwn your story and write your ending

Why I’m taking a deep breath…

By Lesley / February 14, 2017 / 7

‘When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that … Read moreWhy I’m taking a deep breath…

Release & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

By Lesley / January 16, 2017 / 1

Guest post by 40AndEverythingAfter I finally gave up on having a family 8 years ago. We had been trying for a baby for 5 years and, after 3 failed IVF … Read moreRelease & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

Taking time out to be grateful for what we have

By Lesley / December 1, 2016 / 2

It feels to me that the world is very strange at the moment. There’s so much anxiety, stress and anger on both sides of the Atlantic; friends and families are … Read moreTaking time out to be grateful for what we have

Allowing myself to fall

By Lesley / October 31, 2016 / 18

I was recently asked ‘how long does it take to ‘get over’ the grief of being childless?’ And my answer: ‘how long do you want it to be?’ I say … Read moreAllowing myself to fall

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Hot Women Rock

By Lesley / October 4, 2016 / 0

‘It’s never too late to fulfil your life purpose’. That’s the first sentence from my friend Pat Duckworth’s new book; Hot women Rock: How To discover Your Midlife Entrepreneurial Mojo.’ … Read moreHot Women Rock

Avalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh.

By Lesley / September 21, 2016 / 10

Today I’m celebrating the publication of a newbook about what it means to be childless. The book is Avalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh. One of my guiding principles … Read moreAvalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh.

Summer Pause and Reset.

By Lesley / September 6, 2016 / 11

This year I’ve spent some time walking in the Yorkshire Dales and it strikes me that so much of life is like going on a hike. You have a destination … Read moreSummer Pause and Reset.

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Other than Mother – Guest post by Kamalamani

By Lesley / August 1, 2016 / 0

I had always warmly anticipated motherhood, yet it wasn’t to be. I had always warmly anticipated motherhood, yet it wasn’t to be. At 31 I realised I wasn’t to become … Read moreOther than Mother – Guest post by Kamalamani

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