Christmas survival guide

By Lesley | November 30, 2018 | 8 Comments

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not possible. Like an out of control train, Christmas is coming and you can’t stop it. So it’s helpful to prepare yourself as much as you can. I’m not sure how I feel about Christmas these days. I’m as at peace with not having children as I’ll ever be and not having my parents is tougher to deal with. There are a number of reasons, I guess mainly to do with missing their presence on the day. There are opportunities And there are opportunities too. Opportunities to do things a little bit differently, to start our own, new traditions. Last year, for the first time it was just the two of us over Christmas, so it was quieter, and we took the opportunity to get out into the countryside. This year we’ll have Roger’s mum staying for Christmas and then will be spending time with some of our childless friends. I love the way what we do is changing and evolving; we’re keeping those things we love and making our own mark on the holiday. I also know there will be times when I feel overwhelmed or triggered by something or perhaps I want to escape. In the past I would have gone with the flow, but knowing and caring for myself better now, I’ll put myself first and do what’s … Read moreChristmas survival guide

Thank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

By Lesley / April 18, 2017 / 8

It’s not every day that your life experience is the same as a member of the Royal Family, but I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I listened to … Read moreThank you Prince Harry – that’s my story too

Writing my own ending

By Lesley / April 4, 2017 / 5

I’m standing at the front of the room about to tell fifty people some things about me that no one knows. The silence feels heavy. Fifty faces are focused on … Read moreWriting my own ending

Own your story and write your ending

By Lesley / March 21, 2017 / 2

Life is lived through story and the story you tell yourself is the biggest of all because it determines the life you have. If you tell yourself that your life … Read moreOwn your story and write your ending

Why I’m taking a deep breath…

By Lesley / February 14, 2017 / 7

‘When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that … Read moreWhy I’m taking a deep breath…

Release & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

By Lesley / January 16, 2017 / 1

Guest post by 40AndEverythingAfter I finally gave up on having a family 8 years ago. We had been trying for a baby for 5 years and, after 3 failed IVF … Read moreRelease & Renewal – Reflections & Wellbeing Through Writing

Taking time out to be grateful for what we have

By Lesley / December 1, 2016 / 2

It feels to me that the world is very strange at the moment. There’s so much anxiety, stress and anger on both sides of the Atlantic; friends and families are … Read moreTaking time out to be grateful for what we have

Allowing myself to fall

By Lesley / October 31, 2016 / 18

I was recently asked ‘how long does it take to ‘get over’ the grief of being childless?’ And my answer: ‘how long do you want it to be?’ I say … Read moreAllowing myself to fall

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Hot Women Rock

By Lesley / October 4, 2016 / 0

‘It’s never too late to fulfil your life purpose’. That’s the first sentence from my friend Pat Duckworth’s new book; Hot women Rock: How To discover Your Midlife Entrepreneurial Mojo.’ … Read moreHot Women Rock

Avalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh.

By Lesley / September 21, 2016 / 10

Today I’m celebrating the publication of a newbook about what it means to be childless. The book is Avalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh. One of my guiding principles … Read moreAvalanche: A Love story by Julia Leigh.

Summer Pause and Reset.

By Lesley / September 6, 2016 / 11

This year I’ve spent some time walking in the Yorkshire Dales and it strikes me that so much of life is like going on a hike. You have a destination … Read moreSummer Pause and Reset.

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Other than Mother – Guest post by Kamalamani

By Lesley / August 1, 2016 / 0

I had always warmly anticipated motherhood, yet it wasn’t to be. I had always warmly anticipated motherhood, yet it wasn’t to be. At 31 I realised I wasn’t to become … Read moreOther than Mother – Guest post by Kamalamani

What does grace mean to you?

By Lesley / July 14, 2016 / 6

What is grace and what does it mean to you? To be honest until a few months ago grace was one of those abstract concepts that I’d heard of but … Read moreWhat does grace mean to you?

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Three years, 105 blogs and two things.

By Lesley / July 7, 2016 / 6

Three years ago last weekend this website went live and I started to stand up and be counted as a childless woman. Three years feels like a big milestone and … Read moreThree years, 105 blogs and two things.

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The warm embrace of belonging

By Lesley / June 8, 2016 / 15

What comes to mind when you think of the word belonging? When I read Brené Brown say ‘There’s nothing better than the warm embrace of belonging ….’ I thought yes … Read moreThe warm embrace of belonging

Worried about the future at the expense of today?

By Lesley / May 26, 2016 / 8

I was recently asked whether, as a childless woman I’m afraid of dying alone. The rationale for asking was – well you don’t have children (or siblings for that matter), … Read moreWorried about the future at the expense of today?

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