Childless at Christmas: this is all you need

By Lesley | November 19, 2019 | 2 Comments

It’s that time of year again, you’re going to be childless at Christmas & the feeling of dread is building. If you’re like I used to be, you’ll want to hide away until January. But we both know that’s not possible. What you can do instead is to prepare yourself so you lessen the impact. I have mixed feelings about Christmas. I’m as at peace with not having children as I’ll ever be and not having my parents is tougher to deal with. There are a number of reasons, I guess mainly to do with missing their presence on the day. This year I feel reluctant to get into the ‘Christmas Spirit’. I guess it’s early yet (& maybe that’s the point!), I’m writing this on 19th November but I’m already fed up with the Christmas adverts. We visited family at the end of October & were offered mince pies (noooo). I saw a Facebook post the other day which was ‘there are 12 days of Christmas & none of them are in November.’ Quite. I hope that doesn’t make me seem too miserable; I feel very strongly that, in the UK at least it’s become far too commercial. And I’m determined not to fall for that. It’s time to do Christmas differently This year, for only the second time it will be just the two of us over Christmas, so it will be quieter & the main thing is we can be flexible. We’ll definitely get out into the … Read moreChildless at Christmas: this is all you need

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By Lesley / March 13, 2018 / 6

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By Lesley / February 27, 2018 / 3

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By Lesley / February 1, 2018 / 10

I don’t know about you, but my year has already been a bit of a rollercoaster. In my last blog I wrote how I planned to slow down in January, … Read moreCourage or comfort, what’s your choice?

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By Lesley / January 9, 2018 / 4

If you’re excited by all the enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you that, now it’s January you MUST set goals or intentions; give up this or start that, … Read moreWhy not to start new things in January and what do to instead

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By Lesley / November 7, 2017 / 3

When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her … Read moreFinding joy from grief

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By Lesley / October 25, 2017 / 0

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By Lesley / October 9, 2017 / 10

You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening. It’s like a volcano in … Read moreFeeling my way through grief

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By Lesley / September 17, 2017 / 0

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By Lesley / September 5, 2017 / 0

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By Lesley / August 21, 2017 / 6

I hear and feel the crack in my ankle as I crash to the ground. ‘Are you Okay?’ Roger asks. ‘NO’ I get up slowly up and hobble gingerly to … Read moreFrom sprained ankle to heart in three steps

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By Lesley / July 23, 2017 / 10

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By Lesley / June 26, 2017 / 6

As you know I’m in the middle of writing a book about stories & there’s a chapter about how the stories we tell ourselves can keep us stuck or set … Read moreFinding gifts in the impossible story.

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By Lesley / May 30, 2017 / 9

I’m going to dive straight in with some bad news: You’re grieving.   I’m sorry, but you are. I’m guessing that you’ve got that sinking feeling and a ‘no.. ‘ … Read moreThree ways to ignore grief (and what to do instead)

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