Are you living the life unexpected?

By Lesley | March 11, 2020 | 2 Comments

If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: Finding Hope, Meaning & a Fulfilling Life Without Children’ is out very soon. She asked members of the wonderful community of childless bloggers if we could support her & over 20 of us are doing so. It’s not surprising to me that we’re supporting her, why wouldn’t we? What I love is that there are so many of us & our community’s growing all the time. I think it would be fair to say that each one of us is living a completely different (& unexpected) life from the one we anticipated. Speaking for myself (& I believe most of the others) the life I live now has more meaning, hope & is more fulfilling than I ever imagined when first having to face the idea of being childless. Each person’s life looks different on the outside; however we have a number of things in common: Giving up hope There was a point when we gave up all hope of becoming a biological mother &, although most of us didn’t know it at the time, this was the first & possibly most important step to finding our Plan B. Having enough of feeling bad At some point we decided we’d had enough of feeling this bad. To quote Jody ‘I have a theory (road- tested to exhaustion in my own … Read moreAre you living the life unexpected?

It’s ALL about the story

By Lesley / June 29, 2018 / 2

Well what an exciting couple of weeks it’s been. As I write this I’ve been a published author for twelve days, well more than that I am an Amazon No1 … Read moreIt’s ALL about the story

If you can dream it you can do it

By Lesley / June 18, 2018 / 2

This is it. Today Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life will be downloaded onto Kindles and appear through letterboxes around the world. Today … Read moreIf you can dream it you can do it

Finding joy in unexpected places

By Lesley / June 8, 2018 / 4

When you first read the title of my book Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life, you might have been surprised to see the … Read moreFinding joy in unexpected places

How are you different now?

By Lesley / May 24, 2018 / 8

What you’ve been through in the past few years has changed you and you will have gained some qualities you didn’t know you had. You might not want them, but … Read moreHow are you different now?

Four things I learned when I showed my true colours.

By Lesley / May 10, 2018 / 0

You know when you commit to something, it all seems exciting and then there comes a moment when you wonder what on earth you’ve just done? This happened to me … Read moreFour things I learned when I showed my true colours.

There’s More To Life Than Having Children

By Lesley / April 20, 2018 / 0

What happens when you read the headline? Does your body recoil because you can’t possibly believe they could ever apply to you, or do you believe that one day they … Read moreThere’s More To Life Than Having Children

What keeps you on course

By Lesley / April 3, 2018 / 2

It’s all getting a bit hectic in the Pyne household as my dream of holding my book in my hand comes close to being a reality. One moment I find … Read moreWhat keeps you on course

The secret to finding peace

By Lesley / March 13, 2018 / 6

“Here it comes again, my daily weep. I don’t want to cry again. My chest feels so heavy with that all pervading sadness. I’ve worked SO hard over the last … Read moreThe secret to finding peace

Being infertile feels like crap.

By Lesley / February 27, 2018 / 3

Being infertile feels like crap. I  wish I could say it more eloquently, but I really can’t. I felt like a total loser. Now I would never feel that way about … Read moreBeing infertile feels like crap.

Courage or comfort, what’s your choice?

By Lesley / February 1, 2018 / 10

I don’t know about you, but my year has already been a bit of a rollercoaster. In my last blog I wrote how I planned to slow down in January, … Read moreCourage or comfort, what’s your choice?

Why not to start new things in January and what do to instead

By Lesley / January 9, 2018 / 4

If you’re excited by all the enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you that, now it’s January you MUST set goals or intentions; give up this or start that, … Read moreWhy not to start new things in January and what do to instead

Christmas Survival Guide

By Lesley / November 30, 2017 / 6

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not … Read moreChristmas Survival Guide

Finding joy from grief

By Lesley / November 7, 2017 / 3

When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her … Read moreFinding joy from grief

Feeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

By Lesley / October 25, 2017 / 0

I think one of the hardest things about being childless in a pronatalist society is feeling misunderstood and at times, feeling less than.  I’m not sure I realized it at … Read moreFeeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)

Feeling my way through grief

By Lesley / October 9, 2017 / 10

You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening. It’s like a volcano in … Read moreFeeling my way through grief

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