Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about creativity, Persistence
This week on Unlocking Big Magic we discuss another knotty subject. The title of the chapter & our conversation is Persistence & we talk about that, but for me the big takeaways came from what I discovered about perfectionism. So let me jump straight in & ask; what comes to mind when you think about … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about creativity, Permission
Whose permission do you need? This week on Unlocking Big Magic we dig into permission. The whole book is about spotlighting & then dismantling the different ways we stop ourselves & in this episode we discuss the thorny issue of giving yourself permission. We talk about the elaborate excuses we make up to stop ourselves, … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic, Conversations about creativity, Enchantment
I’m going to start by being completely honest & admitting I’ve had a bit of a s**t week; after a few days the reality of lockdown hit me & I really struggled to motivate myself to do anything. Of course, I had a list of jobs, & reading it made my heart sink & the … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about Creativity. Courage & Fear
Would you describe yourself as a creative person? Or maybe you’d like to be more creative & put up all sorts of barriers to stop yourself. I can’t draw or paint & therefore used to believe I wasn’t creative. I was, however, very creative in making up stories to stop myself. These included stories such … Read more
Finding certainty in the most uncertain of times
THAT time of year is upon us &, in addition to everything we normally have to contend with by being childless at Christmas, this year there’s an added layer of uncertainty. As I post this in the 3rd week of November, the UK Government announced that we’ll be out of lockdown in a week, but … Read more
Inspirational Story – Dr. Natascha Hebell-Fernando, PhD
It’s always an honour when someone asks to share their inspirational story on my site & Natascha’s is, in many ways similar to mine in that she had tucked the grief away & not allowed herself to grieve, accept and move forward in a healthy way. And it was only by focusing on self-care that … Read more
Inspirational Story – Tracey Lily
Inspirational stories come in many different forms. As Tracey says we each have our individual path to that place called childless & we each have a path out. Each path may be similar but they will not be identical. Discovering this when she first met other childless women was absolutely key for her. There are … Read more
Why it’s time to change the story
We’re definitely in Autumn & I wanted to write a blog asking you to reflect on what you’ve learned these past few months, what story it’s time to let go of & what seeds you’d like to plant for Spring. However; after sitting in front of my screen for ages I find that the words … Read more
Inspirational Story – Cecilie Harris
The Inspirational Story I have the pleasure in sharing with you today is a really beautiful, heart-breaking & uplifting piece of writing & it’s also the first time Cecilie has shared her story publicly. Many phrases will hit you right at the core of your being as they put into words what you absolutely know … Read more
