As we near the end of week 5 (or is it week 105?) of this alternative life we’re leading, the topic of nurturing has been coming up more & more often. So the webinar I recently participated in was the perfect time to discuss & share views on how we nurture when we don’t have children. My starting point is that we should (or maybe must..) start by nurturing ourselves. As the saying goes ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ so it’s only once you nurture, love & accept yourself that you can give to others. You can watch our conversation below & I wanted to take this opportunity expand on a couple of ideas I talked about & which are really supporting me at the moment. These are ‘small pleasures’ & creativity & they’re both a really great way in to nurturing. The following are edited extracts from my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness. Small pleasures There are small things that support you in many ways, including self-care & nourishment. On the wall behind my desk I have a list of what I call small pleasures: things I can do that bring me joy & demonstrate self-care. Most of them are free, such as pausing to look up at the sky, meditating, reading for 30 minutes, looking at photos, singing along to a favourite song, listening to music or a podcast, or taking a walk. Others cost a small amount, such as one square of chocolate, coffee in … Read more What does nurturing mean to you?
It’s that time of year again, you’re going to be childless at Christmas & the feeling of dread is building. If you’re like I used to be, you’ll want to … Read more Childless at Christmas: this is all you need