150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

By Lesley | August 7, 2018 | 4 Comments

As I started to write I realised this is my 150th blog, so what better time to look back and consider what I’ve learned during the almost 5 ½ years since I wrote the first one. I spent a while pondering what I wanted to say; the obvious blog would be to write about how you can’t outrun grief, how connecting to your body is vital to healing and how changing the story you tell yourself makes a massive impact. But I’ve written about these a lot recently. So instead I’m going to keep it short and ask you one question: What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? It’s over 16 years since we finished IVF treatment and most of my grieving and healing happened in the last two. When I look back over those years, I can’t help but wonder what would have happened if I’d started sooner? What if; instead of spending my energy learning to avoid grief, I’d used it to learn how to let it pass through me? Maybe my grieving took place when I was open to asking for help and undergoing the transformation that happened as a result, however I really do wish that I’d done more with those years. I can’t get them back but instead I implore you not to make the same mistake I did. I learned the hard way that: Time on its own doesn’t heal, It passes anyway so why not use … Read more150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

Realising that grief isn’t the enemy

By Lesley / July 27, 2018 / 4

Here’s my story called ‘Realising that grief isn’t the enemy ‘ which was published in the August 2018 edition of Happiful Magazine. “After years of hiding her feelings of sadness … Read moreRealising that grief isn’t the enemy

IVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

By Lesley / July 16, 2018 / 2

On 25th July 2018 IVF is 40; it’s the 40th birthday of Louise Brown, the first IVF baby. Latest figures suggest that at least 6 million babies have been born … Read moreIVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

It’s ALL about the story

By Lesley / June 29, 2018 / 2

Well what an exciting couple of weeks it’s been. As I write this I’ve been a published author for twelve days, well more than that I am an Amazon No1 … Read moreIt’s ALL about the story

If you can dream it you can do it

By Lesley / June 18, 2018 / 2

This is it. Today Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life will be downloaded onto Kindles and appear through letterboxes around the world. Today … Read moreIf you can dream it you can do it

Finding joy in unexpected places

By Lesley / June 8, 2018 / 4

When you first read the title of my book Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to Guide You to a Fulfilling Life, you might have been surprised to see the … Read moreFinding joy in unexpected places

How are you different now?

By Lesley / May 24, 2018 / 8

What you’ve been through in the past few years has changed you and you will have gained some qualities you didn’t know you had. You might not want them, but … Read moreHow are you different now?

Four things I learned when I showed my true colours.

By Lesley / May 10, 2018 / 0

You know when you commit to something, it all seems exciting and then there comes a moment when you wonder what on earth you’ve just done? This happened to me … Read moreFour things I learned when I showed my true colours.

There’s More To Life Than Having Children

By Lesley / April 20, 2018 / 0

What happens when you read the headline? Does your body recoil because you can’t possibly believe they could ever apply to you, or do you believe that one day they … Read moreThere’s More To Life Than Having Children

What keeps you on course

By Lesley / April 3, 2018 / 0

It’s all getting a bit hectic in the Pyne household as my dream of holding my book in my hand comes close to being a reality. One moment I find … Read moreWhat keeps you on course

The secret to finding peace

By Lesley / March 13, 2018 / 6

“Here it comes again, my daily weep. I don’t want to cry again. My chest feels so heavy with that all pervading sadness. I’ve worked SO hard over the last … Read moreThe secret to finding peace

Being infertile feels like crap.

By Lesley / February 27, 2018 / 1

Being infertile feels like crap. I  wish I could say it more eloquently, but I really can’t. I felt like a total loser. Now I would never feel that way about … Read moreBeing infertile feels like crap.

Courage or comfort, what’s your choice?

By Lesley / February 1, 2018 / 10

I don’t know about you, but my year has already been a bit of a rollercoaster. In my last blog I wrote how I planned to slow down in January, … Read moreCourage or comfort, what’s your choice?

Why not to start new things in January and what do to instead

By Lesley / January 9, 2018 / 4

If you’re excited by all the enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you that, now it’s January you MUST set goals or intentions; give up this or start that, … Read moreWhy not to start new things in January and what do to instead

Christmas Survival Guide

By Lesley / November 30, 2017 / 6

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not … Read moreChristmas Survival Guide

Finding joy from grief

By Lesley / November 7, 2017 / 3

When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her … Read moreFinding joy from grief

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