As I started to write I realised this is my 150th blog, so what better time to look back and consider what I’ve learned during the almost 5 ½ years since I wrote the first one. I spent a while pondering what I wanted to say; the obvious blog would be to write about how you can’t outrun grief, how connecting to your body is vital to healing and how changing the story you tell yourself makes a massive impact. But I’ve written about these a lot recently. So instead I’m going to keep it short and ask you one question: What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? It’s over 16 years since we finished IVF treatment and most of my grieving and healing happened in the last two. When I look back over those years, I can’t help but wonder what would have happened if I’d started sooner? What if; instead of spending my energy learning to avoid grief, I’d used it to learn how to let it pass through me? Maybe my grieving took place when I was open to asking for help and undergoing the transformation that happened as a result, however I really do wish that I’d done more with those years. I can’t get them back but instead I implore you not to make the same mistake I did. I learned the hard way that: Time on its own doesn’t heal, It passes anyway so why not use … Read more150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question
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