This is my 200th blog (woo hoo). The first, published over 8 years ago on 7th March 2013 was entitled ‘Childless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?’ & you won’t find it on here. I’m not claiming to be a great, or even good writer, but it’s fair to say that my writing has come on a bit since then! What I have always done is to write from my heart. When I started this website supporting childless women I thought I was Ok, that I’d done the work I needed to ‘work through’ the grief of childlessness. It turns out I was very wrong & hadn’t even started. Now, having done a lot of work, my writing, still from my heart, is very different. I write less about the raw sensations about being in the midst of grieving, & more about how to create a life you love. I hope you’ll indulge me as, for this milestone I’ve been reflecting on how I’ve changed in the 8 years since I put my words out in the world. And I’d like to start with a story Several hundred years ago in a Thai Monastery the monks, believing they were about to be invaded by the Burmese army, covered their precious golden Buddha with plaster & clay. Over the next 200 years everyone came to accept the clay Buddha & forgot about the gold underneath. In the 1950s, during the dry season, the Monastery was being renovated … Read more
What does nurturing mean to you?
As we near the end of week 5 (or is it week 105?) of this alternative life we’re leading, the topic of nurturing has been coming up more & more … Read more
I’m sorry but you’re grieving
I don’t know about you, but these past few weeks have been really hard. Although both of us have been working from home for several years, this FEELS completely different. … Read more
Are you living the life unexpected?
If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: … Read more
Are you ready to plant some seeds?
I’m hoping that, over the past few weeks you’ve got closer to knowing the answers to the questions; ‘what does my heart want/what’s my heart’s deepest desire?’ Perhaps by now … Read more
What does my heart want?
Welcome back, how are you progressing? (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of a review as we want to be sure that our dreams are supporting us – … Read more
Who am I & what have I learned?
How do you feel having answered last week’s questions? If you haven’t finished yet that’s Ok, this is not a race. (If you’re new here, we’re in the middle of … Read more
Are you ready?
Are you ready to move forward with dreams which support you? If you’re new here you might find it helpful to read my last blog. In it I shared Cheryl … Read more
Don’t let your dreams ruin your life
You know sometimes you hear words which feel like a punch in the heart? When I heard Cheryl Strayed (author of the fabulous book ‘Wild: A journey from Lost to … Read more
Childless at Christmas: this is all you need
It’s that time of year again, you’re going to be childless at Christmas & the feeling of dread is building. If you’re like I used to be, you’ll want to … Read more
Two things I learned from a near miss
A few days ago I came the closest I’ve ever come to having a big car accident. I was on a small roundabout turning right (so I had the right … Read more
Living with Amazing Grace
‘Today the statistics for early miscarriage are shocking; one in four pregnancies end in loss. And for many there never is an answer or a reason why they lost their … Read more
The surprising benefits of acceptance
In my last blog I asked you to let go of your dream of motherhood and today I’d like to dig deeper into another huge subject which comes with letting … Read more
What could happen if you let go?
You’ve probably noticed that the leaves are starting to turn colour and days are getting shorter. This can only mean one thing; Autumn is here. Or if you’re reading this … Read more
The 2 Ps of grieving
This month I have an article published in Yoga Magazine called ‘How Yin (yoga) helped me grieve’ (you can read it here). It’s the most open, honest & vulnerable pieces … Read more
How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve
Below is the transcript of an article which was published in the August 2019 edition of Yoga Magazine. It’s called ‘How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve.’ I wrote it from … Read more