Are you living the life unexpected?

By Lesley | March 11, 2020 | 2 Comments

If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: Finding Hope, Meaning & a Fulfilling Life Without Children’ is out very soon. She asked members of the wonderful community of childless bloggers if we could support her & over 20 of us are doing so. It’s not surprising to me that we’re supporting her, why wouldn’t we? What I love is that there are so many of us & our community’s growing all the time. I think it would be fair to say that each one of us is living a completely different (& unexpected) life from the one we anticipated. Speaking for myself (& I believe most of the others) the life I live now has more meaning, hope & is more fulfilling than I ever imagined when first having to face the idea of being childless. Each person’s life looks different on the outside; however we have a number of things in common: Giving up hope There was a point when we gave up all hope of becoming a biological mother &, although most of us didn’t know it at the time, this was the first & possibly most important step to finding our Plan B. Having enough of feeling bad At some point we decided we’d had enough of feeling this bad. To quote Jody ‘I have a theory (road- tested to exhaustion in my own … Read moreAre you living the life unexpected?

What are you settling for?

By Lesley / May 22, 2019 / 0

Do you ever suddenly realise you feel great and it surprises you because you didn’t realise how lousy you’d been feeling? This has happened to me a couple of times; … Read moreWhat are you settling for?

What good could come?

By Lesley / April 30, 2019 / 2

I heard these words last weekend at the ‘There’s More To Life Than Children’ day at Fertility Fest. They were spoken by Sheridan Voysey during his talk as part of … Read moreWhat good could come?

The 5 things I’ve learned coming to terms with childlessness

By Lesley / April 25, 2019 / 4

You know sometimes you get an email that brings everything to a stop for a few moments? That happened to me last week, I had an email from the Emma … Read moreThe 5 things I’ve learned coming to terms with childlessness

What’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

By Lesley / April 1, 2019 / 9

‘I feel incredibly sad, a sadness deep inside. It’s almost overwhelming, a heaviness inside my chest that I carry all the time, if only I could cry.’ ‘I’m sad and … Read moreWhat’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

What’s love got to do with it?

By Lesley / February 18, 2019 / 4

I’m going to dive right in and start with a question. Do you feel and express love for others? Ok, I’ll hazard a guess that your answer was an unequivocal … Read moreWhat’s love got to do with it?

The challenges of following my own advice

By Lesley / January 29, 2019 / 4

It’s been almost a month since my last blog when I encouraged you not to start new things and set resolutions but, instead to follow nature, be still and direct … Read moreThe challenges of following my own advice

One question to ask yourself in January

By Lesley / January 2, 2019 / 8

If you’re excited by all those enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you it’s time to make this change, set new resolutions, stop reading now. This is definitely not … Read moreOne question to ask yourself in January

Christmas survival guide

By Lesley / November 30, 2018 / 8

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not … Read moreChristmas survival guide

How to bring joy into your life

By Lesley / November 20, 2018 / 0

The days are growing shorter and THAT time of year is almost upon us. Maybe you feel a sense of heaviness or dread and you’re thinking something like – what … Read moreHow to bring joy into your life

Hello, I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless

By Lesley / September 9, 2018 / 4

Hello I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless. I am courage, I am peace, I am joy. I am me. I created this image for World Childless Week. We have a campaign … Read moreHello, I’m Lesley Pyne, I’m childless

21 Miles, by Jessica Hepburn

By Lesley / August 30, 2018 / 4

Does motherhood make you happy? I’m guessing you believe the answer is yes, especially as you tried so hard to be a mother. Like many of us, Jessica Hepburn wondered … Read more21 Miles, by Jessica Hepburn

Supporting Word Childless Week

By Lesley / August 21, 2018 / 0

This year I’m really excited to be involved in and actively supporting World Childless Week between 10th and 16th September. World Childless Week (WCW) ‘aims to raise awareness of the childless … Read moreSupporting Word Childless Week

150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

By Lesley / August 7, 2018 / 6

As I started to write I realised this is my 150th blog, so what better time to look back and consider what I’ve learned during the almost 5 ½ years … Read more150 blogs later and it all boils down to one question

Realising that grief isn’t the enemy

By Lesley / July 27, 2018 / 4

Here’s my story called ‘Realising that grief isn’t the enemy ‘ which was published in the August 2018 edition of Happiful Magazine. “After years of hiding her feelings of sadness … Read moreRealising that grief isn’t the enemy

IVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

By Lesley / July 16, 2018 / 2

On 25th July 2018 IVF is 40; it’s the 40th birthday of Louise Brown, the first IVF baby. Latest figures suggest that at least 6 million babies have been born … Read moreIVF is 40, forgotten voices speaking out.

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