This will most likely be my last blog as, after 11 years, 225 blogs & a book I’m running out of words. And if I needed proof, I really couldn’t decide what to write. Today (18th June 2024) is Finding Joy’s 6th birthday & in a quest for inspiration I read through my journal from the time she was published & these words really jumped out: ‘Maybe it was all about love, Maybe I did love myself enough to do the work & ask questions, Perhaps that was the case all along.’ To be honest reading them was quite emotional (especially as they’d slipped my mind) & I spent some time pondering everything I’ve done over the past few years. The phrase, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” (Søren Kierkegaard) popped into my mind & I realised the one thing; the big thing I’ve learned (am still learning) is the importance of self-love. Everything I’ve done flowed from self-love Looking back, I see that everything I did flowed from self-love. It propelled me to ask for help, to do the ‘work’ to process my childless grief & the loss of both parents, it encouraged me to explore & to follow my curiosity, and most importantly it enabled me to be confident about who I am, tell my story & find my joy. This realisation was quite a shock as, although I touched on self-love in Finding Joy, it wasn’t something I’d consciously considered & … Read more
Living with Amazing Grace
‘Today the statistics for early miscarriage are shocking; one in four pregnancies end in loss. And for many there never is an answer or a reason why they lost their … Read more
The surprising benefits of acceptance
In my last blog I asked you to let go of your dream of motherhood and today I’d like to dig deeper into another huge subject which comes with letting … Read more
What could happen if you let go?
You’ve probably noticed that the leaves are starting to turn colour and days are getting shorter. This can only mean one thing; Autumn is here. Or if you’re reading this … Read more
The 2 Ps of grieving
This month I have an article published in Yoga Magazine called ‘How Yin (yoga) helped me grieve’ (you can read it here). It’s the most open, honest & vulnerable pieces … Read more
How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve
Below is the transcript of an article which was published in the August 2019 edition of Yoga Magazine. It’s called ‘How Yin (Yoga) helped me grieve.’ I wrote it from … Read more
Who’s telling your story?
In my last blog, I published Rose’s story; she’d been a client several years ago & suddenly felt ready to share it publicly. However she wasn’t prepared for how it … Read more
Reflecting on a year of Finding Joy
As I post this, (18th June 2019) it’s exactly a year since my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness was published. I planned to write a positive & inspiring post about … Read more
Working hard at being happy
Last week, together with others I was featured in the UK national press in an article about being both childless and parentless (which, let’s face it is where all of … Read more
What are you settling for?
Do you ever suddenly realise you feel great and it surprises you because you didn’t realise how lousy you’d been feeling? This has happened to me a couple of times; … Read more
What good could come?
I heard these words last weekend at the ‘There’s More To Life Than Children’ day at Fertility Fest. They were spoken by Sheridan Voysey during his talk as part of … Read more
The 5 things I’ve learned coming to terms with childlessness
You know sometimes you get an email that brings everything to a stop for a few moments? That happened to me last week, I had an email from the Emma … Read more
What’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?
‘I feel incredibly sad, a sadness deep inside. It’s almost overwhelming, a heaviness inside my chest that I carry all the time, if only I could cry.’ ‘I’m sad and … Read more
What’s love got to do with it?
I’m going to dive right in and start with a question. Do you feel and express love for others? Ok, I’ll hazard a guess that your answer was an unequivocal … Read more
The challenges of following my own advice
It’s been almost a month since my last blog when I encouraged you not to start new things and set resolutions but, instead to follow nature, be still and direct … Read more
One question to ask yourself in January
If you’re excited by all those enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you it’s time to make this change, set new resolutions, stop reading now. This is definitely not … Read more
