Following the curiosity driven path to joy

By Lesley | September 21, 2020 | 0 Comments

I wrote this post for World Childless Week & it was published under the topic of  ‘Moving Forwards.’ You can read it & many other posts published for that day on this link. These past few months have been strange/challenging (choose an appropriate word) for everyone & no one knows what the future holds so, in August  as lockdown eased somewhat in the UK, I took the decision to (as the saying goes) ‘make hay while the sun shines.’ For the past few years I’ve consciously searched for ways to expand my comfort zone, both body & mind &, after being somewhat constrained recently, I’ve made an extra effort. These past few weeks have therefore been filled with joy, fun, new experiences, deepening friendships, growth & (because life isn’t always a bed of roses) there were also tears. My list of experiences includes kayaking down the Thames, lots of yoga including trying new classes, a Qigong training course, challenging myself with new embroidery projects, travelling on the train & tube through London (a big thing at this time), travelling on said transport in bright coloured yoga leggings (a huge thing for me) & accidentally getting on the wrong train with hilarious results. I’m also feeling more so with highs came lows; the tears were 2 big shame spirals, which I can recognise & have the tools to work through. Now & again I’m stopped in my tracks by a ‘wow, who am I now?’ moment which brings forth a happy … Read more Following the curiosity driven path to joy

Two ways to ease through Mother’s Day

By Lesley / March 5, 2015 / 2

At long last Spring is here and the world seems a bit more positive, the days are getting longer and the garden’s starting to come to life. It’s the time … Read more Two ways to ease through Mother’s Day

Had enough of the winter blues? How gratitude can help.

By Lesley / February 19, 2015 / 4

It’s almost the end of February, the days are getting longer and the garden’s starting to grow. You think it’s time to be more optimistic and positive but you can’t … Read more Had enough of the winter blues? How gratitude can help.

How do you describe yourself when you’re childless?

By Lesley / February 5, 2015 / 4

Amanda felt stuck. She’d always wanted to be a mother. Her mind knew that it wasn’t to be, but her heart hadn’t caught up yet. She’d been focused on trying … Read more How do you describe yourself when you’re childless?

5 ways to slay the Dementor

By Lesley / January 20, 2015 / 24

Remember when grief and sadness last had their grip on you? When it felt like the Dementor from Harry Potter had drained all the peace, hope, and happiness from you … Read more 5 ways to slay the Dementor

How do you know which way to go?

By Lesley / January 9, 2015 / 4

Every day, many times every day, you come to a fork in the road and you get to choose which path to take. This article describes the two paths as … Read more How do you know which way to go?

The one thing to help you at Christmas

By Lesley / December 19, 2014 / 2

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve written various tips on how you can get through Christmas and I’ve kept the most important until last. My guess is that you’ve … Read more The one thing to help you at Christmas

Dreading the work Xmas do?

What’s the link between Christmas parties & pass the parcel?

By Lesley / December 15, 2014 / 1

Let me guess; you’re dreading the work Christmas party because you know everyone will be talking about their children or grandchildren and you’ll feel inadequate because you can’t join in. … Read more What’s the link between Christmas parties & pass the parcel?

3 ways to take control at Christmas

By Lesley / December 9, 2014 / 7

Let me guess, Christmas is fast approaching and your stress is building. Everywhere you go there’s Christmas music, and ‘happy family’ adverts seem to leap out at you from the … Read more 3 ways to take control at Christmas

Is your heart a museum to grief?

By Lesley / November 25, 2014 / 1

You know that feeling you get when you read something and it’s being punched in the solar plexus? Well the piece below by Elizabeth Gilbert did this for me and … Read more Is your heart a museum to grief?

Helpful books – Swimming by Enza Gandolfo

By Lesley / November 5, 2014 / 0

When you’re not sure which way to turn, there’s so much solace to be found in the written word and especially when the story parallels your own experience. A couple … Read more Helpful books – Swimming by Enza Gandolfo

It’s good that we don’t have children

By Lesley / September 26, 2014 / 8

A couple of weeks ago I heard myself say these words, they sort of came out on their own and took me by surprise. My first reaction was to consider … Read more It’s good that we don’t have children

Three ways to be more open about being childless

By Lesley / August 28, 2014 / 0

The ONE thing most women who connect with me find really hard (or even impossible) is to be open about why they don’t have children. Some say that keeping it … Read more Three ways to be more open about being childless

Men and Women discussing childlessness

By Lesley / August 24, 2014 / 2

A few weeks ago when recording an interview with Viv Oyolu we touched on how different the journey is for men. Viv had the great idea to facilitate a discussion … Read more Men and Women discussing childlessness

How to improve your life in 15 minutes.

By Lesley / August 5, 2014 / 2

You know that your life can change for the worse in an instant; you’ve received a call that turned your world upside down, maybe the one that told you you … Read more How to improve your life in 15 minutes.

Why courage is the key to moving on

By Lesley / July 25, 2014 / 2

Since I wrote the six things I’ve learned in the last year I’ve come to realise just how intertwined they are and how they’re a recipe for life in general, … Read more Why courage is the key to moving on

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