I wrote this post for World Childless Week & it was published under the topic of ‘Moving Forwards.’ You can read it & many other posts published for that day on this link. These past few months have been strange/challenging (choose an appropriate word) for everyone & no one knows what the future holds so, in August as lockdown eased somewhat in the UK, I took the decision to (as the saying goes) ‘make hay while the sun shines.’ For the past few years I’ve consciously searched for ways to expand my comfort zone, both body & mind &, after being somewhat constrained recently, I’ve made an extra effort. These past few weeks have therefore been filled with joy, fun, new experiences, deepening friendships, growth & (because life isn’t always a bed of roses) there were also tears. My list of experiences includes kayaking down the Thames, lots of yoga including trying new classes, a Qigong training course, challenging myself with new embroidery projects, travelling on the train & tube through London (a big thing at this time), travelling on said transport in bright coloured yoga leggings (a huge thing for me) & accidentally getting on the wrong train with hilarious results. I’m also feeling more so with highs came lows; the tears were 2 big shame spirals, which I can recognise & have the tools to work through. Now & again I’m stopped in my tracks by a ‘wow, who am I now?’ moment which brings forth a happy … Read more Following the curiosity driven path to joy
It’s almost the end of February, the days are getting longer and the garden’s starting to grow. You think it’s time to be more optimistic and positive but you can’t … Read more Had enough of the winter blues? How gratitude can help.
Amanda felt stuck. She’d always wanted to be a mother. Her mind knew that it wasn’t to be, but her heart hadn’t caught up yet. She’d been focused on trying … Read more How do you describe yourself when you’re childless?
Let me guess; you’re dreading the work Christmas party because you know everyone will be talking about their children or grandchildren and you’ll feel inadequate because you can’t join in. … Read more What’s the link between Christmas parties & pass the parcel?
When you’re not sure which way to turn, there’s so much solace to be found in the written word and especially when the story parallels your own experience. A couple … Read more Helpful books – Swimming by Enza Gandolfo
The ONE thing most women who connect with me find really hard (or even impossible) is to be open about why they don’t have children. Some say that keeping it … Read more Three ways to be more open about being childless