Are you living the life unexpected?

By Lesley | March 11, 2020 | 2 Comments

If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: Finding Hope, Meaning & a Fulfilling Life Without Children’ is out very soon. She asked members of the wonderful community of childless bloggers if we could support her & over 20 of us are doing so. It’s not surprising to me that we’re supporting her, why wouldn’t we? What I love is that there are so many of us & our community’s growing all the time. I think it would be fair to say that each one of us is living a completely different (& unexpected) life from the one we anticipated. Speaking for myself (& I believe most of the others) the life I live now has more meaning, hope & is more fulfilling than I ever imagined when first having to face the idea of being childless. Each person’s life looks different on the outside; however we have a number of things in common: Giving up hope There was a point when we gave up all hope of becoming a biological mother &, although most of us didn’t know it at the time, this was the first & possibly most important step to finding our Plan B. Having enough of feeling bad At some point we decided we’d had enough of feeling this bad. To quote Jody ‘I have a theory (road- tested to exhaustion in my own … Read moreAre you living the life unexpected?

What’s the link between a cloak, a sprained ankle and a rainbow?

By Lesley / September 19, 2013 / 3

I imagine that you’re struggling to find the link between those three apparently random things so I’m going to let you out of your misery straight away and tell you … Read moreWhat’s the link between a cloak, a sprained ankle and a rainbow?

Selling the Fantasy of Fertility and ‘The Cycle: Living A Taboo’

By Lesley / September 12, 2013 / 2

I’ve mentioned the wonderful Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos and her book on my resources page and I’m delighted to let you know of two events that she’s involved in which will … Read moreSelling the Fantasy of Fertility and ‘The Cycle: Living A Taboo’

How a sunrise can help healing

By Lesley / September 3, 2013 / 0

I don’t know about you, but as the seasons start to change I find myself reflecting on the past and particularly on my own steps to healing and the key … Read moreHow a sunrise can help healing

The secret to no longer being a Victim (Cause v Effect)

By Lesley / August 21, 2013 / 0

How are you getting on with the first 2 steps? Do you agree that writing a journal and getting all your thoughts and feelings out and including what you’re grateful … Read moreThe secret to no longer being a Victim (Cause v Effect)

How many small steps to healing do you want to take?

By Lesley / August 8, 2013 / 0

I have this quote on my website, and I feel that it‘s worth repeating Maybe you’re thinking, “If I just sit here and wait, something will change” and that’s the … Read moreHow many small steps to healing do you want to take?

What baggage do you really need?

By Lesley / July 12, 2013 / 0

For many people it’s the start of the holiday season and it made me think about what we really need to take with us and what we can leave behind. … Read moreWhat baggage do you really need?

Learn from Andy Murray how to develop Something Inside so Strong

By Lesley / July 9, 2013 / 0

I’ve been to two events this week where I’ve sung the song “Something Inside so Strong’ and it started me thinking how for me personally having something inside so strong … Read moreLearn from Andy Murray how to develop Something Inside so Strong

How I plan to support childless women

By Lesley / June 28, 2013 / 2

When I set up my coaching business about a year ago, I knew in my heart that supporting childless women was what I really wanted to do, but I wasn’t … Read moreHow I plan to support childless women

5 reasons you need a guide even when you know where you want to go

By Lesley / June 17, 2013 / 0

A few months ago I decided to change my business to specifically provide support for childless women. Making the decision to change was the easy part. Then I was stuck. … Read more5 reasons you need a guide even when you know where you want to go

Which books helped you to come to terms with childlessness?

By Lesley / June 1, 2013 / 1

I saw recently that the book chain Waterstones is inviting readers to name a book that altered their lives, it’s part of a project called ‘The Book That Made Me’ … Read moreWhich books helped you to come to terms with childlessness?

How do you nurture yourself and how do you play?

By Lesley / May 17, 2013 / 1

I read in the paper recently that a new international study by the Journal of Consumer Research found that “listening to sad music was the best way to recover from … Read moreHow do you nurture yourself and how do you play?

Speaking with my Authentic Childless Voice (part 2)

By Lesley / May 10, 2013 / 0

A few weeks ago I wrote about how hard I found it to speak openly about being childless, how by not doing so I was hiding my true self from … Read moreSpeaking with my Authentic Childless Voice (part 2)

Living a Happy life – what do you want; the importance of values?

By Lesley / May 3, 2013 / 0

Here’s the first in my series on tips and tricks to help childless women live a happy life.  This week I’m going to discuss values.  Basically the more your values … Read moreLiving a Happy life – what do you want; the importance of values?

Today I’m feeling grateful

By Lesley / April 11, 2013 / 0

Last week I wrote about some of the negatives of being childless, and as I write this the sun is shining (albeit briefly) so I feel that it’s a good … Read moreToday I’m feeling grateful

What’s it like to be childless?

By Lesley / April 5, 2013 / 1

In the last couple of weeks, in a quest to really understand what it’s like to be childless I’ve interviewed almost 20 women.  I can’t thank them enough for sharing … Read moreWhat’s it like to be childless?

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