Christmas survival guide

By Lesley | November 30, 2018 | 8 Comments

It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not possible. Like an out of control train, Christmas is coming and you can’t stop it. So it’s helpful to prepare yourself as much as you can. I’m not sure how I feel about Christmas these days. I’m as at peace with not having children as I’ll ever be and not having my parents is tougher to deal with. There are a number of reasons, I guess mainly to do with missing their presence on the day. There are opportunities And there are opportunities too. Opportunities to do things a little bit differently, to start our own, new traditions. Last year, for the first time it was just the two of us over Christmas, so it was quieter, and we took the opportunity to get out into the countryside. This year we’ll have Roger’s mum staying for Christmas and then will be spending time with some of our childless friends. I love the way what we do is changing and evolving; we’re keeping those things we love and making our own mark on the holiday. I also know there will be times when I feel overwhelmed or triggered by something or perhaps I want to escape. In the past I would have gone with the flow, but knowing and caring for myself better now, I’ll put myself first and do what’s … Read moreChristmas survival guide

Childless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?

By Lesley / March 7, 2013 / 0

I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster.  Having read various other … Read moreChildless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?

Lessons from the film UP

By Lesley / January 11, 2013 / 0

I’m wondering whether you watched the film UP when it was on TV recently and if so how did it motivate you? Animated films work on many levels these days; … Read moreLessons from the film UP

Putting your new beliefs into practice

By Lesley / December 21, 2012 / 0

You can spend your life being busy. But if deep down you don’t believe you will succeed, chances are you won’t.  If, however you believe in yourself, then you are … Read morePutting your new beliefs into practice

Final 2 beliefs

By Lesley / December 17, 2012 / 0

So here are the final 2 beliefs There is a solution to every problem What do you do when something goes wrong?  If you’re like me it depends…. perhaps sometimes … Read moreFinal 2 beliefs

beliefs guide everything we do

By Lesley / November 13, 2012 / 0

I’m going to talk about 2 beliefs this time; Have respect for the other person’s model of the world/point of view My previous articles have talked about how we act … Read morebeliefs guide everything we do

Behind every Behaviour is a Positive Intention

By Lesley / November 5, 2012 / 0

In previous articles I’ve written about how we all filter the world through our senses, so what we recall and therefore how we behave is determined by our beliefs, values, … Read moreBehind every Behaviour is a Positive Intention

Has the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?

By Lesley / October 18, 2012 / 0

  After hearing her really inspiring talk at the London School of Life, I’ve started reading Brené Brown’s new book “Daring Greatly, How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the … Read moreHas the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?

The Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.

By Lesley / October 8, 2012 / 0

I hope you had success with the previous beliefs. Today I’m going to talk about the belief that there’s no failure, only feedback and also explain how you can give … Read moreThe Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.

NLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success

By Lesley / September 24, 2012 / 0

In previous articles I’ve spoken about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’m continuing the theme of a winning mindset with several articles in which I will explain what in NLP … Read moreNLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success

What are you focusing on?

By Lesley / August 30, 2012 / 0

If you’ve read my previous posts on mental rehearsal and visualisation I imagine that you heard many athletes say that they use it.  Isn’t that strange? One day you’ve never … Read moreWhat are you focusing on?

How are you using mental rehearsal?

By Lesley / August 10, 2012 / 0

Last time I talked about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’ve heard several Olympic athletes mention using this technique. Two of the most obvious were Michael Jamieson (GB swimming silver … Read moreHow are you using mental rehearsal?

Learn simple techniques from Olympic winners to be at your best

By Lesley / July 20, 2012 / 0

The other day Help for Heroes circulated the quote “the difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a (wo)man’s determination”. This is a fabulous quote and I’m sure … Read moreLearn simple techniques from Olympic winners to be at your best

Welcome to my new website

By Lesley / June 27, 2012 / 0

You’ve probably heard the Chinese saying that “the journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step”.  If you’ve read about me, you’ll see that my journey to this point … Read moreWelcome to my new website

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