If you follow other childless blogs, your head must be deeply buried in the sand if you’re unaware that the 2nd edition of Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: Finding Hope, Meaning & a Fulfilling Life Without Children’ is out very soon. She asked members of the wonderful community of childless bloggers if we could support her & over 20 of us are doing so. It’s not surprising to me that we’re supporting her, why wouldn’t we? What I love is that there are so many of us & our community’s growing all the time. I think it would be fair to say that each one of us is living a completely different (& unexpected) life from the one we anticipated. Speaking for myself (& I believe most of the others) the life I live now has more meaning, hope & is more fulfilling than I ever imagined when first having to face the idea of being childless. Each person’s life looks different on the outside; however we have a number of things in common: Giving up hope There was a point when we gave up all hope of becoming a biological mother &, although most of us didn’t know it at the time, this was the first & possibly most important step to finding our Plan B. Having enough of feeling bad At some point we decided we’d had enough of feeling this bad. To quote Jody ‘I have a theory (road- tested to exhaustion in my own … Read moreAre you living the life unexpected?
I imagine that you’re struggling to find the link between those three apparently random things so I’m going to let you out of your misery straight away and tell you … Read moreWhat’s the link between a cloak, a sprained ankle and a rainbow?
I’ve mentioned the wonderful Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos and her book on my resources page and I’m delighted to let you know of two events that she’s involved in which will … Read moreSelling the Fantasy of Fertility and ‘The Cycle: Living A Taboo’
How are you getting on with the first 2 steps? Do you agree that writing a journal and getting all your thoughts and feelings out and including what you’re grateful … Read moreThe secret to no longer being a Victim (Cause v Effect)
I have this quote on my website, and I feel that it‘s worth repeating Maybe you’re thinking, “If I just sit here and wait, something will change” and that’s the … Read moreHow many small steps to healing do you want to take?
I’ve been to two events this week where I’ve sung the song “Something Inside so Strong’ and it started me thinking how for me personally having something inside so strong … Read moreLearn from Andy Murray how to develop Something Inside so Strong
A few months ago I decided to change my business to specifically provide support for childless women. Making the decision to change was the easy part. Then I was stuck. … Read more5 reasons you need a guide even when you know where you want to go
I saw recently that the book chain Waterstones is inviting readers to name a book that altered their lives, it’s part of a project called ‘The Book That Made Me’ … Read moreWhich books helped you to come to terms with childlessness?
I read in the paper recently that a new international study by the Journal of Consumer Research found that “listening to sad music was the best way to recover from … Read moreHow do you nurture yourself and how do you play?
A few weeks ago I wrote about how hard I found it to speak openly about being childless, how by not doing so I was hiding my true self from … Read moreSpeaking with my Authentic Childless Voice (part 2)
Here’s the first in my series on tips and tricks to help childless women live a happy life. This week I’m going to discuss values. Basically the more your values … Read moreLiving a Happy life – what do you want; the importance of values?