What’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

By Lesley | April 1, 2019 | 9 Comments

‘I feel incredibly sad, a sadness deep inside. It’s almost overwhelming, a heaviness inside my chest that I carry all the time, if only I could cry.’ ‘I’m sad and that’s my normal sad.’  Do you recognise these words? Maybe you’ve written or voiced something similar? They’re from my journal, written in late Feb/early March 2016 a few days before I attended a Rising Strong workshop in Vegas. At that time I was doing absolutely everything I could to keep all the grief I was carrying in the box I’d created because I believed it was the right thing to do. Let’s just say, it wasn’t working. That workshop was the beginning of my healing journey and where I started to release some of the sadness I was holding. It was the first time I cried in public and when I realised how much we feel emotions in the body. As I wrote at the time; ‘emotions, we feel them in our body, they have a signature.’  (Who knew??) Looking back I hardly recognise the Lesley who wrote those words. That Lesley was afraid of feeling her grief because she ‘knew’ bottling everything up was the best thing to do. She was largely numb; sadness was her norm and there was very little joy in her life. And now on 8TH March 2019 at 6.22 am, exactly 3 years later I wrote these words during a yoga retreat in India: ‘Never in a million years did I ever expect that … Read moreWhat’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?

Once again the media are portraying a rosy picture of ivf

By Lesley / April 23, 2013 / 0

At lunchtime today I spent a couple of hours listening to the BBC Radio 5 programme about ivf, a 2hr programme recorded in the Midland Fertility Services (MFS) Clinic in … Read moreOnce again the media are portraying a rosy picture of ivf

Today I’m feeling grateful

By Lesley / April 11, 2013 / 0

Last week I wrote about some of the negatives of being childless, and as I write this the sun is shining (albeit briefly) so I feel that it’s a good … Read moreToday I’m feeling grateful

What’s it like to be childless?

By Lesley / April 5, 2013 / 1

In the last couple of weeks, in a quest to really understand what it’s like to be childless I’ve interviewed almost 20 women.  I can’t thank them enough for sharing … Read moreWhat’s it like to be childless?

Speaking with my Authentic Childless Voice

By Lesley / March 20, 2013 / 2

I know how hard I’ve found it to speak openly about being childless, and I also know that by not doing so I’ve been hiding my true self from the … Read moreSpeaking with my Authentic Childless Voice

Childless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?

By Lesley / March 7, 2013 / 0

I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster.  Having read various other … Read moreChildless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?

Lessons from the film UP

By Lesley / January 11, 2013 / 0

I’m wondering whether you watched the film UP when it was on TV recently and if so how did it motivate you? Animated films work on many levels these days; … Read moreLessons from the film UP

Putting your new beliefs into practice

By Lesley / December 21, 2012 / 0

You can spend your life being busy. But if deep down you don’t believe you will succeed, chances are you won’t.  If, however you believe in yourself, then you are … Read morePutting your new beliefs into practice

Final 2 beliefs

By Lesley / December 17, 2012 / 0

So here are the final 2 beliefs There is a solution to every problem What do you do when something goes wrong?  If you’re like me it depends…. perhaps sometimes … Read moreFinal 2 beliefs

beliefs guide everything we do

By Lesley / November 13, 2012 / 0

I’m going to talk about 2 beliefs this time; Have respect for the other person’s model of the world/point of view My previous articles have talked about how we act … Read morebeliefs guide everything we do

Behind every Behaviour is a Positive Intention

By Lesley / November 5, 2012 / 0

In previous articles I’ve written about how we all filter the world through our senses, so what we recall and therefore how we behave is determined by our beliefs, values, … Read moreBehind every Behaviour is a Positive Intention

Has the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?

By Lesley / October 18, 2012 / 0

  After hearing her really inspiring talk at the London School of Life, I’ve started reading Brené Brown’s new book “Daring Greatly, How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the … Read moreHas the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?

The Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.

By Lesley / October 8, 2012 / 0

I hope you had success with the previous beliefs. Today I’m going to talk about the belief that there’s no failure, only feedback and also explain how you can give … Read moreThe Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.

NLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success

By Lesley / September 24, 2012 / 0

In previous articles I’ve spoken about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’m continuing the theme of a winning mindset with several articles in which I will explain what in NLP … Read moreNLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success

What are you focusing on?

By Lesley / August 30, 2012 / 0

If you’ve read my previous posts on mental rehearsal and visualisation I imagine that you heard many athletes say that they use it.  Isn’t that strange? One day you’ve never … Read moreWhat are you focusing on?

How are you using mental rehearsal?

By Lesley / August 10, 2012 / 0

Last time I talked about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’ve heard several Olympic athletes mention using this technique. Two of the most obvious were Michael Jamieson (GB swimming silver … Read moreHow are you using mental rehearsal?

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