It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not possible. Like an out of control train, Christmas is coming and you can’t stop it. So it’s helpful to prepare yourself as much as you can. I’m not sure how I feel about Christmas these days. I’m as at peace with not having children as I’ll ever be and not having my parents is tougher to deal with. There are a number of reasons, I guess mainly to do with missing their presence on the day. There are opportunities And there are opportunities too. Opportunities to do things a little bit differently, to start our own, new traditions. Last year, for the first time it was just the two of us over Christmas, so it was quieter, and we took the opportunity to get out into the countryside. This year we’ll have Roger’s mum staying for Christmas and then will be spending time with some of our childless friends. I love the way what we do is changing and evolving; we’re keeping those things we love and making our own mark on the holiday. I also know there will be times when I feel overwhelmed or triggered by something or perhaps I want to escape. In the past I would have gone with the flow, but knowing and caring for myself better now, I’ll put myself first and do what’s … Read moreChristmas survival guide
I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster. Having read various other … Read moreChildless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?
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After hearing her really inspiring talk at the London School of Life, I’ve started reading Brené Brown’s new book “Daring Greatly, How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the … Read moreHas the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?
I hope you had success with the previous beliefs. Today I’m going to talk about the belief that there’s no failure, only feedback and also explain how you can give … Read moreThe Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.
In previous articles I’ve spoken about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’m continuing the theme of a winning mindset with several articles in which I will explain what in NLP … Read moreNLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success
The other day Help for Heroes circulated the quote “the difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a (wo)man’s determination”. This is a fabulous quote and I’m sure … Read moreLearn simple techniques from Olympic winners to be at your best