‘I feel incredibly sad, a sadness deep inside. It’s almost overwhelming, a heaviness inside my chest that I carry all the time, if only I could cry.’ ‘I’m sad and that’s my normal sad.’ Do you recognise these words? Maybe you’ve written or voiced something similar? They’re from my journal, written in late Feb/early March 2016 a few days before I attended a Rising Strong workshop in Vegas. At that time I was doing absolutely everything I could to keep all the grief I was carrying in the box I’d created because I believed it was the right thing to do. Let’s just say, it wasn’t working. That workshop was the beginning of my healing journey and where I started to release some of the sadness I was holding. It was the first time I cried in public and when I realised how much we feel emotions in the body. As I wrote at the time; ‘emotions, we feel them in our body, they have a signature.’ (Who knew??) Looking back I hardly recognise the Lesley who wrote those words. That Lesley was afraid of feeling her grief because she ‘knew’ bottling everything up was the best thing to do. She was largely numb; sadness was her norm and there was very little joy in her life. And now on 8TH March 2019 at 6.22 am, exactly 3 years later I wrote these words during a yoga retreat in India: ‘Never in a million years did I ever expect that … Read moreWhat’s the link between a water bottle, a dragon, a swing chair and a stone?
At lunchtime today I spent a couple of hours listening to the BBC Radio 5 programme about ivf, a 2hr programme recorded in the Midland Fertility Services (MFS) Clinic in … Read moreOnce again the media are portraying a rosy picture of ivf
I know how hard I’ve found it to speak openly about being childless, and I also know that by not doing so I’ve been hiding my true self from the … Read moreSpeaking with my Authentic Childless Voice
I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster. Having read various other … Read moreChildless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?
In previous articles I’ve written about how we all filter the world through our senses, so what we recall and therefore how we behave is determined by our beliefs, values, … Read moreBehind every Behaviour is a Positive Intention
After hearing her really inspiring talk at the London School of Life, I’ve started reading Brené Brown’s new book “Daring Greatly, How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the … Read moreHas the fear of “failure” (or of negative feedback) held you back?
I hope you had success with the previous beliefs. Today I’m going to talk about the belief that there’s no failure, only feedback and also explain how you can give … Read moreThe Mindset for Success – there is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.
In previous articles I’ve spoken about mental rehearsal and visualisation and I’m continuing the theme of a winning mindset with several articles in which I will explain what in NLP … Read moreNLP Presuppositions – the Mindset for Success