This will most likely be my last blog as, after 11 years, 225 blogs & a book I’m running out of words. And if I needed proof, I really couldn’t decide what to write. Today (18th June 2024) is Finding Joy’s 6th birthday & in a quest for inspiration I read through my journal from the time she was published & these words really jumped out: ‘Maybe it was all about love, Maybe I did love myself enough to do the work & ask questions, Perhaps that was the case all along.’ To be honest reading them was quite emotional (especially as they’d slipped my mind) & I spent some time pondering everything I’ve done over the past few years. The phrase, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” (Søren Kierkegaard) popped into my mind & I realised the one thing; the big thing I’ve learned (am still learning) is the importance of self-love. Everything I’ve done flowed from self-love Looking back, I see that everything I did flowed from self-love. It propelled me to ask for help, to do the ‘work’ to process my childless grief & the loss of both parents, it encouraged me to explore & to follow my curiosity, and most importantly it enabled me to be confident about who I am, tell my story & find my joy. This realisation was quite a shock as, although I touched on self-love in Finding Joy, it wasn’t something I’d consciously considered & … Read more
Why courage is the key to moving on
Since I wrote the six things I’ve learned in the last year I’ve come to realise just how intertwined they are and how they’re a recipe for life in general, … Read more
Six things I’ve learned about living as a childless woman
Have you ever started something thinking you’re ready but it’s only after you’ve been doing it for a while that you realise NOW you’re ready? Well that’s been my experience … Read more
What are you concerned about?
You’re wondering about signing up to my programme Let Go and Move On: Six Steps to Finding Fulfilment after Childlessness and something is holding you back. Maybe you haven’t worked … Read more
Who are you now? (or how I re-discovered myself by way of butterflies, lights and snow)
As a childless woman one of your greatest challenges is to work out who you are and how you fit into society. I always wanted to be a mother and … Read more
Had your baby buttons pushed? Learn three simple tricks to regain your equilibrium
One of your biggest challenges is coping with children. Your baby buttons are pushed every time you see or hear about children. They seem to be everywhere, maybe it’s your … Read more
What’s the gift?
The other day a friend told me that he was about to start chemotherapy. This was a complete surprise and what he said next was even more astounding. He told … Read more
Are you the best version of yourself?
Well are you? You play many different roles in life and over your lifetime, are any of them the real or the best you (whatever the ‘best’ means to you)? … Read more
What are you afraid of?
You want to be more open with people, You want to tell your friends or work colleagues about your life, But you’re afraid to. You believe that it you speak … Read more
Worried about Mother’s Day? Here are three things which will help.
It’s Mother’s Day next week in the UK, every shop is full of it, there’s posters outside every restaurant and it seems like every aisle in the supermarket has present … Read more
Four ways to improve your life as a childless woman
Last week we were in a restaurant in Bulgaria where my husband was skiing and the song ‘Its a wonderful, wonderful life’ was played and I haven’t been able to … Read more
What’s swimming got to do with telling your story?
I’ve written previously about how being honest and open about my childlessness has changed my life for the better and how it means that for the first time in many … Read more
How long do you have?
I was going to write something different this week, It was my birthday a couple of days ago, and I was already thinking about how quickly time passes when I … Read more
What is it time to let go of?
Now that it’s a couple of weeks into the new year, are you still looking forward to the year ahead or are you wondering whether you REALLY want to let … Read more
What are you going to do differently this year?
Happy New Year and Congratulations for surviving Christmas and New Year. Did you have a great time or was it a struggle? Are you looking forward to the year ahead … Read more
The most important thing you can do over Christmas
Over the past few weeks I’ve written tips on how to deal with the family coming at Christmas and how to use pass the parcel to get through parties and … Read more
