This will most likely be my last blog as, after 11 years, 225 blogs & a book I’m running out of words. And if I needed proof, I really couldn’t decide what to write. Today (18th June 2024) is Finding Joy’s 6th birthday & in a quest for inspiration I read through my journal from the time she was published & these words really jumped out: ‘Maybe it was all about love, Maybe I did love myself enough to do the work & ask questions, Perhaps that was the case all along.’ To be honest reading them was quite emotional (especially as they’d slipped my mind) & I spent some time pondering everything I’ve done over the past few years. The phrase, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” (Søren Kierkegaard) popped into my mind & I realised the one thing; the big thing I’ve learned (am still learning) is the importance of self-love. Everything I’ve done flowed from self-love Looking back, I see that everything I did flowed from self-love. It propelled me to ask for help, to do the ‘work’ to process my childless grief & the loss of both parents, it encouraged me to explore & to follow my curiosity, and most importantly it enabled me to be confident about who I am, tell my story & find my joy. This realisation was quite a shock as, although I touched on self-love in Finding Joy, it wasn’t something I’d consciously considered & … Read more
Dreading the work Christmas ‘do’? View it as a game of pass the parcel
You’re dreading going to the Christmas ‘do’ at work because you know that everyone will be talking about their children or grandchildren and you feel inadequate because you can’t join … Read more
Family coming to stay at Christmas? Here are 3 things you can do to take control
So Christmas is only a few weeks away and you’re already feeling stressed. Everywhere you go there’s Christmas music, and every time you turn on the TV all you see … Read more
Guest post – Making a Difference in Botswana
Here is a guest post by a good friend, Hazel Hodge. Hazel is an inspiration, like many of us it took her a long time to come to terms with … Read more
It’s never too late: 4 steps to become who you want to be
A few days ago I came across this quote ‘It is never too late to be what you might have been’ by George Eliot and, whilst I love it as … Read more
Two ways laughter helps you heal, four ways to bring more into your life, and an outtake
I had a different blog post ready to go live today, but twice in the last week I’ve really laughed which made me realise the importance of laughter in healing … Read more
What’s the link between a cloak, a sprained ankle and a rainbow?
I imagine that you’re struggling to find the link between those three apparently random things so I’m going to let you out of your misery straight away and tell you … Read more
Selling the Fantasy of Fertility and ‘The Cycle: Living A Taboo’
I’ve mentioned the wonderful Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos and her book on my resources page and I’m delighted to let you know of two events that she’s involved in which will … Read more
How a sunrise can help healing
I don’t know about you, but as the seasons start to change I find myself reflecting on the past and particularly on my own steps to healing and the key … Read more
The secret to no longer being a Victim (Cause v Effect)
How are you getting on with the first 2 steps? Do you agree that writing a journal and getting all your thoughts and feelings out and including what you’re grateful … Read more
How many small steps to healing do you want to take?
I have this quote on my website, and I feel that it‘s worth repeating Maybe you’re thinking, “If I just sit here and wait, something will change” and that’s the … Read more
What baggage do you really need?
For many people it’s the start of the holiday season and it made me think about what we really need to take with us and what we can leave behind. … Read more
Learn from Andy Murray how to develop Something Inside so Strong
I’ve been to two events this week where I’ve sung the song “Something Inside so Strong’ and it started me thinking how for me personally having something inside so strong … Read more
How I plan to support childless women
When I set up my coaching business about a year ago, I knew in my heart that supporting childless women was what I really wanted to do, but I wasn’t … Read more
5 reasons you need a guide even when you know where you want to go
A few months ago I decided to change my business to specifically provide support for childless women. Making the decision to change was the easy part. Then I was stuck. … Read more
Which books helped you to come to terms with childlessness?
I saw recently that the book chain Waterstones is inviting readers to name a book that altered their lives, it’s part of a project called ‘The Book That Made Me’ … Read more
