This is my 200th blog (woo hoo). The first, published over 8 years ago on 7th March 2013 was entitled ‘Childless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?’ & you won’t find it on here. I’m not claiming to be a great, or even good writer, but it’s fair to say that my writing has come on a bit since then! What I have always done is to write from my heart. When I started this website supporting childless women I thought I was Ok, that I’d done the work I needed to ‘work through’ the grief of childlessness. It turns out I was very wrong & hadn’t even started. Now, having done a lot of work, my writing, still from my heart, is very different. I write less about the raw sensations about being in the midst of grieving, & more about how to create a life you love. I hope you’ll indulge me as, for this milestone I’ve been reflecting on how I’ve changed in the 8 years since I put my words out in the world. And I’d like to start with a story Several hundred years ago in a Thai Monastery the monks, believing they were about to be invaded by the Burmese army, covered their precious golden Buddha with plaster & clay. Over the next 200 years everyone came to accept the clay Buddha & forgot about the gold underneath. In the 1950s, during the dry season, the Monastery was being renovated … Read more
Speaking with my Authentic Childless Voice
I know how hard I’ve found it to speak openly about being childless, and I also know that by not doing so I’ve been hiding my true self from the … Read more
Childless or Childfree – what’s the difference & does it matter?
I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster. Having read various other … Read more
beliefs guide everything we do
I’m going to talk about 2 beliefs this time; Have respect for the other person’s model of the world/point of view My previous articles have talked about how we act … Read more