Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
5 ways to slay the Dementor
Remember when grief and sadness last had their grip on you? When it felt like the Dementor from Harry Potter had drained all the peace, hope, and happiness from you leaving only the dark? When you felt powerless and you couldn’t imagine the light let alone see it. Remember when this feeling came over you … Read more
Inspirational Stories – Mali
This week I have another treat for you, we’re heading to New Zealand and sharing Mali’s story. I feel an enormous amount of connection with her in that I too thought it was important to have children when I was ready, and not before. Our paths are different, and the outcomes that there is an … Read more
How do you know which way to go?
Every day, many times every day, you come to a fork in the road and you get to choose which path to take. This article describes the two paths as Should and Must and the author’s experiences (it’s a bit lengthy but definitely worth the read). I’ll be explaining the different path, five steps to … Read more
The one thing to help you at Christmas
Over the past couple of weeks I’ve written various tips on how you can get through Christmas and I’ve kept the most important until last. My guess is that you’ve been bombarded by emails on what to do and what not to do, and you’ll have lists and more lists AND this is by far … Read more
What’s the link between Christmas parties & pass the parcel?
Let me guess; you’re dreading the work Christmas party because you know everyone will be talking about their children or grandchildren and you’ll feel inadequate because you can’t join in. And you’ve managed to keep the fact that you can’t have children secret from your work colleagues so you’re worried that; You’ll be asked THE … Read more
3 ways to take control at Christmas
Let me guess, Christmas is fast approaching and your stress is building. Everywhere you go there’s Christmas music, and ‘happy family’ adverts seem to leap out at you from the TV. You can feel the dread building, and the worst thing is you have family coming to stay and so you can’t even escape in … Read more
Inspirational Stories – Hazel Carter (nee Hodge)
I am really pleased to feature Hazel this week. I’ve known her for maybe 6 or 7 years and she is an inspiration to me and many other women. I think she’s being very modest when she says she is ‘supportive to ladies without children’, I know that she’s much more than that; there are … Read more
Is your heart a museum to grief?
You know that feeling you get when you read something and it’s being punched in the solar plexus? Well the piece below by Elizabeth Gilbert did this for me and I think it just might feel like that to you too. The original piece is here QUESTION OF THE DAY: Is your home a museum … Read more
Helpful books – Swimming by Enza Gandolfo
When you’re not sure which way to turn, there’s so much solace to be found in the written word and especially when the story parallels your own experience. A couple of months ago I featured Enza’s story and recently my close friend Louise sent me this review of ‘Swimming’ she wrote four years ago for … Read more
