Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
Courage or comfort, what’s your choice?
I don’t know about you, but my year has already been a bit of a rollercoaster. In my last blog I wrote how I planned to slow down in January, that I would spend time connecting and nurturing my inner energy source so it was ready for spring. Unfortunately I didn’t manage to follow my … Read more
Inspirational Story – Helen
I am delighted to share Helen’s Inspirational Story with you this week. It’s a story of spending 11 years feeling lonely and isolated, not knowing anyone else in her situation. It’s also a story of being not being told by professionals that she was grieving, which lead her to feel that she was ‘just making … Read more
Why not to start new things in January and what do to instead
If you’re excited by all the enthusiastic emails flooding into your inbox telling you that, now it’s January you MUST set goals or intentions; give up this or start that, otherwise it will be too late then stop reading now. If, however you’re fed up with people telling you how they’ve started this programme or … Read more
Christmas Survival Guide
It’s that time of year again and you can probably feel the tension and stress building. Maybe the idea of hiding somewhere until January sounds attractive but unfortunately that’s not possible. Like an out of control train, Christmas is coming and you can’t stop it. So you may as well prepare yourself as much as … Read more
Finding joy from grief
When was the last time you felt complete, unadulterated joy? Not sure? Let me guess, you’ve also been running away from grief. As Tracey Cleantis said when I interviewed her for my book; ‘not grieving will affect your ability to be happy because it’s like anaesthetic. And when you take an anaesthetic it doesn’t just … Read more
Feeling misunderstood (guest post by Tessa Broad)
I think one of the hardest things about being childless in a pronatalist society is feeling misunderstood and at times, feeling less than. I’m not sure I realized it at the time of writing but I now believe one of the reasons I wrote Dear You: A Letter to my Unborn Children was to try … Read more
Feeling my way through grief
You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening. It’s like a volcano in your chest; welling up towards your throat and any minute now it’s going to erupt through your eyes. What do you do? Do you use … Read more
Inspirational Stories – Helen Rebello
As I write my book I’ve asked the contributors to update their story and I’m pleased to share the first of those. I first published Helen’s story almost exactly 3 years ago and it was the first time she’d shared it openly. I’ve left the comments here so you can see the power of sharing … Read more
The power of finding support
This post is my contribution to WorldChildlessWeek, here are my thoughts on finding support. Let me guess, you’re struggling to come to terms with not being a mother. You’ve found me and other bloggers, maybe you post on forums but there’s something missing. You want more. You want to sit across a table with other … Read more
