Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
Worried about Mother’s Day? Here are three things which will help.
It’s Mother’s Day next week in the UK, every shop is full of it, there’s posters outside every restaurant and it seems like every aisle in the supermarket has present ideas. You want to hide. You want to bury your head somewhere and not come out until it’s all over. Me too. I’m afraid I … Read more
Four ways to improve your life as a childless woman
Last week we were in a restaurant in Bulgaria where my husband was skiing and the song ‘Its a wonderful, wonderful life’ was played and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since. You may know it, the chorus is; ‘No need to run and hide, it’s a wonderful, wonderful life. … Read more
What’s swimming got to do with telling your story?
I’ve written previously about how being honest and open about my childlessness has changed my life for the better and how it means that for the first time in many years I’m really being me. I want to share a story about another lady who has recently started ‘standing tall’ in her infertility and what … Read more
How long do you have?
I was going to write something different this week, It was my birthday a couple of days ago, and I was already thinking about how quickly time passes when I received an email telling me that a friend’s husband recently died. Well that was a massive shock, and so unexpected as we didn’t know he … Read more
What is it time to let go of?
Now that it’s a couple of weeks into the new year, are you still looking forward to the year ahead or are you wondering whether you REALLY want to let go of those things that have been holding you back? You know how great your life could be if only you could leave them behind. … Read more
What are you going to do differently this year?
Happy New Year and Congratulations for surviving Christmas and New Year. Did you have a great time or was it a struggle? Are you looking forward to the year ahead or are you dreading another year of feeling sad, unhappy… (insert word as appropriate)? Do you wish that these feelings would STOP so that you … Read more
The most important thing you can do over Christmas
Over the past few weeks I’ve written tips on how to deal with the family coming at Christmas and how to use pass the parcel to get through parties and I’ve kept the most important until last. I know that you’ve found the tips useful and I want to give you just one more. And … Read more
Dreading the work Christmas ‘do’? View it as a game of pass the parcel
You’re dreading going to the Christmas ‘do’ at work because you know that everyone will be talking about their children or grandchildren and you feel inadequate because you can’t join in. You’ve managed to keep the fact that you can’t have children secret from your work colleagues and you’re worried that; a) You’ll be asked … Read more
Family coming to stay at Christmas? Here are 3 things you can do to take control
So Christmas is only a few weeks away and you’re already feeling stressed. Everywhere you go there’s Christmas music, and every time you turn on the TV all you see are ‘happy family’ adverts. You can feel the stress and dread building, and the worst thing is you have family coming to stay and so … Read more
