Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
A few weeks ago I wrote about how hard I found it to speak openly about being childless, how by not doing so I was hiding my true self from the world and I shared with you my initial experiences of being more open. I thought I’d update you with my adventures and also share … Read more
Here’s the first in my series on tips and tricks to help childless women live a happy life. This week I’m going to discuss values. Basically the more your values are being met, the happier you will be. Also, if you’re like me, you’ve probably wasted a lot of time thinking about what’s negative or … Read more
Last week I wrote about some of the negatives of being childless, and as I write this the sun is shining (albeit briefly) so I feel that it’s a good day to feel grateful for what I have in life. My life didn’t turn out exactly how I expected it to, and I plan to … Read more
In the last couple of weeks, in a quest to really understand what it’s like to be childless I’ve interviewed almost 20 women. I can’t thank them enough for sharing their stories especially as it was hard for them. Being childless myself and having quite a few childless friends I thought I had a pretty … Read more
I know how hard I’ve found it to speak openly about being childless, and I also know that by not doing so I’ve been hiding my true self from the world. A good example of this was my last job. I was open about not having children, but not about why. There were lots of … Read more
I’ve been using the term Childless to describe myself for over 10 years since we stopped trying to have children and jumped off the IVF rollercoaster. Having read various other websites, blogs and forums I’ve seen lots of others used, for example Childless, Childfree, Childless- not-by-choice, Involuntarily Childless, Childless- by-Circumstance and Childfree –Not-by-Choice to name … Read more
I’m going to talk about 2 beliefs this time; Have respect for the other person’s model of the world/point of view My previous articles have talked about how we act in accordance with our map of the world and now that we have this knowledge and understanding it changes how we interact with others. Taking … Read more