Welcome & thank you for taking time to browse.
After writing almost 200 blogs over 7 years I realised how much support there was here & how hard it was for readers to find what they most needed.
I’ve therefore created a number of pages where you can find blogs about different topics. Those are quite broad & on this page you can dig deeper into areas which interest you.
I think the headings are self-explanatory, maybe with the exception of:
‘Lesley’s top picks, my favourite posts’ – this is a good place to start. These are a combination of those I really enjoyed writing & others which I think will be the most help to you.
‘Don't let your dreams ruin your life helpful process’- this was a series of blogs I wrote in early 2020, you’ll get the best out of them if you start with the earliest one!
‘Story’ – I am a great believer in the importance of owning your story as a positive step forward.
Please read a selection of different subjects & always with an open mind
I recommend that you take your times, always knowing that some will resonate with you & some won’t. And that’s perfect, because what supported me moving forward, might help you & it also might not.
In my blogs I usually ask questions, so I also encourage you to take time to answer them.
You can read much, much more in my book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness.
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about creativity, Trust
I’ve been waiting for this chapter since we started because one concept in it changed my life when I first read the book 5 years ago. I had that in mind when I was getting ready to record, but what I didn’t expect was there to be another huge revelation which has changed me, yet … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about creativity, Persistence
This week on Unlocking Big Magic we discuss another knotty subject. The title of the chapter & our conversation is Persistence & we talk about that, but for me the big takeaways came from what I discovered about perfectionism. So let me jump straight in & ask; what comes to mind when you think about … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about creativity, Permission
Whose permission do you need? This week on Unlocking Big Magic we dig into permission. The whole book is about spotlighting & then dismantling the different ways we stop ourselves & in this episode we discuss the thorny issue of giving yourself permission. We talk about the elaborate excuses we make up to stop ourselves, … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic, Conversations about creativity, Enchantment
I’m going to start by being completely honest & admitting I’ve had a bit of a s**t week; after a few days the reality of lockdown hit me & I really struggled to motivate myself to do anything. Of course, I had a list of jobs, & reading it made my heart sink & the … Read more
Unlocking Big Magic; Conversations about Creativity. Courage & Fear
Would you describe yourself as a creative person? Or maybe you’d like to be more creative & put up all sorts of barriers to stop yourself. I can’t draw or paint & therefore used to believe I wasn’t creative. I was, however, very creative in making up stories to stop myself. These included stories such … Read more
Finding certainty in the most uncertain of times
THAT time of year is upon us &, in addition to everything we normally have to contend with by being childless at Christmas, this year there’s an added layer of uncertainty. As I post this in the 3rd week of November, the UK Government announced that we’ll be out of lockdown in a week, but … Read more
Inspirational Story – Dr. Natascha Hebell-Fernando, PhD
It’s always an honour when someone asks to share their inspirational story on my site & Natascha’s is, in many ways similar to mine in that she had tucked the grief away & not allowed herself to grieve, accept and move forward in a healthy way. And it was only by focusing on self-care that … Read more
Inspirational Story – Tracey Lily
Inspirational stories come in many different forms. As Tracey says we each have our individual path to that place called childless & we each have a path out. Each path may be similar but they will not be identical. Discovering this when she first met other childless women was absolutely key for her. There are … Read more
Why it’s time to change the story
We’re definitely in Autumn & I wanted to write a blog asking you to reflect on what you’ve learned these past few months, what story it’s time to let go of & what seeds you’d like to plant for Spring. However; after sitting in front of my screen for ages I find that the words … Read more
